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2 The Mother
2 Sri Aurobindo
1 Krishna-Dwaipayana Vyasa
1 Jalaluddin Rumi
1 Hermann Hesse
1 A B Purani
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30 Anonymous
15 Gretchen Rubin
14 Kelly McGonigal
13 Daniel Kahneman
12 Ryan Holiday
10 James Allen
9 Dale Carnegie
5 Napoleon Hill
5 Mahatma Gandhi
5 Henry Cloud
5 Frederick Lenz
5 Daniel Goleman
5 Chuck Palahniuk
4 Paul Tough
4 Paramahansa Yogananda
4 Max Lucado
4 Lysa TerKeurst
4 Jocelyn K Glei
4 Israelmore Ayivor
3 Roy Baumeister
1:Let's ask God to help us to self-control for one who lacks it, lacks his grace. ~ Jalaluddin Rumi, #KEYS
2:Control over the lower impulsions is the first step towards realisation.
~ The Mother, Words Of The Mother II, Weaknesses, DESIRES, IMPULSES AND SELF-CONTROL, [253] [T7],#KEYS
3:Wisdom, good lineage, self-control, acquaintance with the scriptures, prowess, absence of garrulity, gift to the extent of one's power, and gratefulness, these eight qualities shed a lustre upon their possessor. ~ Krishna-Dwaipayana Vyasa, #KEYS
4:The Gita has laid it down from the beginning that the very first precondition of the divine birth, the higher existence is the slaying of rajasic desire and its children, and that means the exclusion of sin. Sin is the working of the lower nature for the crude satisfaction of its own ignorant, dull or violent rajasic and tamasic propensities in revolt against any high self-control and self-mastery of the nature by the spirit. ~ Sri Aurobindo, Essays On The Gita, #KEYS
5:Shastra is the knowledge and teaching laid down by intuition, experience and wisdom, the science and art and ethic of life, the best standards available to the race. The half-awakened man who leaves the observance of its rule to follow the guidance of his instincts and desires, can get pleasure but not happiness; for the inner happiness can only come by right living. He cannot move to perfection, cannot acquire the highest spiritual status. The law of instinct and desire seems to come first in the animal world, but the manhood of man grows by the pursuit of truth and religion and knowledge and a right life. The Shastra, the recognised Right that he has set up to govern his lower members by his reason and intelligent will, must therefore first be observed and made the authority for conduct and works and for what should or should not be done, till the instinctive desire nature is schooled and abated and put down by the habit of self-control and man is ready first for a freer intelligent self-guidance and then for the highest supreme law and supreme liberty of the spiritual nature.
For the Shastra in its ordinary aspect is not that spiritual law, although at its loftiest point, when it becomes a science and art of spiritual living, Adhyatma-shastra, - the Gita itself describes its own teaching as the highest and most secret Shastra, - it formulates a rule of the self-transcendence of the sattwic nature and develops the discipline which leads to spiritual transmutation. Yet all Shastra is built on a number of preparatory conditions, dharmas; it is a means, not an end. The supreme end is the freedom of the spirit when abandoning all dharmas the soul turns to God for its sole law of action, acts straight from the divine will and lives in the freedom of the divine nature, not in the Law, but in the Spirit. This is the development of the teaching which is prepared by the next question of Arjuna. ~ Sri Aurobindo, Essays On The Gita,#KEYS
6:Disciple: If the Asuras represent the dark side of God on the vital plane - does this dark side exist on every plane? If so, are there beings on the mental plane which correspond to the dark side?
Sri Aurobindo: The Asura is really the dark side of God on the mental plane. Mind is the very field of the Asura. His characteristic is egoistic strength, which refuses the Higher Law. The Asura has got Self-control, Tapas, intelligence, only, all that is for his ego.
On the vital plane the corresponding forces we call the Rakshashas which represent violent passions and impulses. There are other beings on the vital plane which we call pramatta and piśacha and these; manifest, more or less, on the physico-vital plane.
Distiple: What is the corresponding being on the higher plane?
Sri Aurobindo: On the higher plane there are no Asuras - there the Truth prevails. There are "Asuras" there in the Vedic sense,- "beings with divine powers". The mental Asura is only a deviation of that power.
The work of the Asura has all the characteristics of mind in it. It is mind refusing to submit to the Higher Law; it is the mind in revolt. It works on the basis of ego and ignorance.
Disciple: What are the forces that correspond to the dark side of God on the physical plane?
Sri Aurobindo: They are what may be called the "elemental beings", or rather, obscure elemental forces - they are more "forces" than "beings". It is these that the Theosophists call the "Elementals". They are not individualised beings like the Asura and the Rakshasas, they are ignorant forces working oh the subtle physical plane.
Disciple: What is the word for them in Sanskrit;?
Sri Aurobindo: What are called bhūtas seem most nearly to correspond to them.
Disciple: The term "Elemental" means that these work through the elements.
Sri Aurobindo: There are two kinds of "elementals": one mischievous and the other innocent. What the Europeans call the gnomes come under this category. ~ A B Purani, EVENING TALKS WITH SRI AUROBINDO, 15-06-1926,#KEYS
7:On that spring day in the park I saw a young woman who attracted me. She was tall and slender, elegantly dressed, and had an intelligent and boyish face. I liked her at once. She was my type and began to fill my imagination. She probably was not much older than I but seemed far more mature, well-defined, a full-grown woman, but with a touch of exuberance and boyishness in her face, and this was what I liked above all .
I had never managed to approach a girl with whom I had fallen in love, nor did I manage in this case. But the impression she made on me was deeper than any previous one had been and the infatuation had a profound influence on my life.
Suddenly a new image had risen up before me, a lofty and cherished image. And no need, no urge was as deep or as fervent within me as the craving to worship and admire. I gave her the name Beatrice, for, even though I had not read Dante, I knew about Beatrice from an English painting of which I owned a reproduction. It showed a young pre-Raphaelite woman, long-limbed and slender, with long head and etherealized hands and features. My beautiful young woman did not quite resemble her, even though she, too, revealed that slender and boyish figure which I loved, and something of the ethereal, soulful quality of her face.
Although I never addressed a single word to Beatrice, she exerted a profound influence on me at that time. She raised her image before me, she gave me access to a holy shrine, she transformed me into a worshiper in a temple.
From one day to the next I stayed clear of all bars and nocturnal exploits. I could be alone with myself again and enjoyed reading and going for long walks.
My sudden conversion drew a good deal of mockery in its wake. But now I had something I loved and venerated, I had an ideal again, life was rich with intimations of mystery and a feeling of dawn that made me immune to all taunts. I had come home again to myself, even if only as the slave and servant of a cherished image.
I find it difficult to think back to that time without a certain fondness. Once more I was trying most strenuously to construct an intimate "world of light" for myself out of the shambles of a period of devastation; once more I sacrificed everything within me to the aim of banishing darkness and evil from myself. And, furthermore, this present "world of light" was to some extent my own creation; it was no longer an escape, no crawling back to -nether and the safety of irresponsibility; it was a new duty, one I had invented and desired on my own, with responsibility and self-control. My sexuality, a torment from which I was in constant flight, was to be transfigured nto spirituality and devotion by this holy fire. Everything :brk and hateful was to be banished, there were to be no more tortured nights, no excitement before lascivious picures, no eavesdropping at forbidden doors, no lust. In place of all this I raised my altar to the image of Beatrice, :.. and by consecrating myself to her I consecrated myself to the spirit and to the gods, sacrificing that part of life which I withdrew from the forces of darkness to those of light. My goal was not joy but purity, not happiness but beauty, and spirituality.
This cult of Beatrice completely changed my life.
~ Hermann Hesse, Demian,#KEYS
8:Education
THE EDUCATION of a human being should begin at birth and continue throughout his life.
Indeed, if we want this education to have its maximum result, it should begin even before birth; in this case it is the mother herself who proceeds with this education by means of a twofold action: first, upon herself for her own improvement, and secondly, upon the child whom she is forming physically. For it is certain that the nature of the child to be born depends very much upon the mother who forms it, upon her aspiration and will as well as upon the material surroundings in which she lives. To see that her thoughts are always beautiful and pure, her feelings always noble and fine, her material surroundings as harmonious as possible and full of a great simplicity - this is the part of education which should apply to the mother herself. And if she has in addition a conscious and definite will to form the child according to the highest ideal she can conceive, then the very best conditions will be realised so that the child can come into the world with his utmost potentialities. How many difficult efforts and useless complications would be avoided in this way!
Education to be complete must have five principal aspects corresponding to the five principal activities of the human being: the physical, the vital, the mental, the psychic and the spiritual. Usually, these phases of education follow chronologically the growth of the individual; this, however, does not mean that one of them should replace another, but that all must continue, completing one another until the end of his life.
We propose to study these five aspects of education one by one and also their interrelationships. But before we enter into the details of the subject, I wish to make a recommendation to parents. Most parents, for various reasons, give very little thought to the true education which should be imparted to children. When they have brought a child into the world, provided him with food, satisfied his various material needs and looked after his health more or less carefully, they think they have fully discharged their duty. Later on, they will send him to school and hand over to the teachers the responsibility for his education.
There are other parents who know that their children must be educated and who try to do what they can. But very few, even among those who are most serious and sincere, know that the first thing to do, in order to be able to educate a child, is to educate oneself, to become conscious and master of oneself so that one never sets a bad example to one's child. For it is above all through example that education becomes effective. To speak good words and to give wise advice to a child has very little effect if one does not oneself give him an example of what one teaches. Sincerity, honesty, straightforwardness, courage, disinterestedness, unselfishness, patience, endurance, perseverance, peace, calm, self-control are all things that are taught infinitely better by example than by beautiful speeches. Parents, have a high ideal and always act in accordance with it and you will see that little by little your child will reflect this ideal in himself and spontaneously manifest the qualities you would like to see expressed in his nature. Quite naturally a child has respect and admiration for his parents; unless they are quite unworthy, they will always appear to their child as demigods whom he will try to imitate as best he can.
With very few exceptions, parents are not aware of the disastrous influence that their own defects, impulses, weaknesses and lack of self-control have on their children. If you wish to be respected by a child, have respect for yourself and be worthy of respect at every moment. Never be authoritarian, despotic, impatient or ill-tempered. When your child asks you a question, do not give him a stupid or silly answer under the pretext that he cannot understand you. You can always make yourself understood if you take enough trouble; and in spite of the popular saying that it is not always good to tell the truth, I affirm that it is always good to tell the truth, but that the art consists in telling it in such a way as to make it accessible to the mind of the hearer. In early life, until he is twelve or fourteen, the child's mind is hardly open to abstract notions and general ideas. And yet you can train it to understand these things by using concrete images, symbols or parables. Up to quite an advanced age and for some who mentally always remain children, a narrative, a story, a tale well told teach much more than any number of theoretical explanations.
Another pitfall to avoid: do not scold your child without good reason and only when it is quite indispensable. A child who is too often scolded gets hardened to rebuke and no longer attaches much importance to words or severity of tone. And above all, take good care never to scold him for a fault which you yourself commit. Children are very keen and clear-sighted observers; they soon find out your weaknesses and note them without pity.
When a child has done something wrong, see that he confesses it to you spontaneously and frankly; and when he has confessed, with kindness and affection make him understand what was wrong in his movement so that he will not repeat it, but never scold him; a fault confessed must always be forgiven. You should not allow any fear to come between you and your child; fear is a pernicious means of education: it invariably gives birth to deceit and lying. Only a discerning affection that is firm yet gentle and an adequate practical knowledge will create the bonds of trust that are indispensable for you to be able to educate your child effectively. And do not forget that you have to control yourself constantly in order to be equal to your task and truly fulfil the duty which you owe your child by the mere fact of having brought him into the world.
Bulletin, February 1951
~ The Mother, On Education,#KEYS
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1:practice self-control. ~ Wayne W Dyer
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2:Self-control was overrated. ~ Sally MacKenzie
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3:I’m not looking for self-control. ~ Maggie Stiefvater
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4:Self-control is a fruit of his work. ~ Paul David Tripp
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5:Woman wants control, man self-control . ~ Immanuel Kant
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6:"Self-control is a rare and remarkable virtue." ~ Carl Jung
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7:habits eliminate the need for self-control. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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8:There is no liberty save wisdom and self-control. ~ H G Wells
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9:This lack of self-control I fear is never ending ~ Linkin Park
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10:Hunger and self-control do not go hand in hand. ~ Kathy Freston
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11:Prudent, cautious self-control is wisdom's root. ~ Robert Burns
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12:The first key to leadership is self-control. ~ Jack Weatherford
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13:I may have lost my heart, but not my self-control. ~ Jane Austen
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14:The intelligent desire self-control; children want candy. ~ Rumi
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15:the most wretched person is one who does not have self-control ~
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16:It's disappointing, how little self-control boys have. ~ Jenny Han
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17:the sweetness of self-denial and self-control, ~ Louisa May Alcott
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18:Self-control is solely a matter of thought-control! ~ Napoleon Hill
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19:You need self-control in an out-of-control world. ~ James C Collins
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20:When I am void of power, I am void of self-control. ~ Lysa TerKeurst
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21:cleanliness, steadiness and self-control; renunciation of the ~ Anonymous
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22:People denied themselves daily. It was called self-control. ~ Tara Sue Me
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23:salvation by grace teaches us to live self-controlled lives. ~ Beth Moore
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24:this parish had been excellent for his self-control. ~ Colleen McCullough
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25:Paradoxically, without self-control you can't be free. ~ Russell A Barkley
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26:self-criticism backfires as a strategy for self-control. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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27:Hysteria defied self-control; obsessional neurosis mimicked it. ~ Peter Gay
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28:Boys with no self-control become men behind bars" -Crystal ~ Kwame Alexander
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29:In other words, habits eliminate the need for self-control. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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30:Always clamping down on excitement is not self-control but fear. ~ Mason Cooley
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31:Self-control is the only possible road to character development ~ Dennis Prager
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32:The intelligent want self-control; children want candy. —RUMI ~ Kelly McGonigal
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33:This could all end at any moment...Therefore, be self-controlled. ~ Francis Chan
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34:damyata datta dayadhvam, “Be self-controlled, give, be compassionate. ~ Anonymous
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35:Self-control is one of the most exhilarating of pleasures. ~ William F Buckley Jr
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36:The intelligent want self-control; children want candy. — RUMI ~ Michael Matthews
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37:you can’t really have self-control until you give up other-control. ~ Henry Cloud
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38:I would have thought that ordinary self-control helped people more. ~ Rebecca West
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39:Learning how to be agreeable is the key to learning self-control. ~ Frederick Lenz
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40:it takes character and self-control to be under-standing and forgiving. ~ Anonymous
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41:It was the most important art a person could learn: self-control. ~ Henning Mankell
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42:Years of secret suffering had taught me superhuman self-control. ~ Vladimir Nabokov
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43:grit self-control zest social intelligence gratitude optimism curiosity ~ Paul Tough
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44:Self-control is strength; Right Thought is mastery; Calmness is power. ~ James Allen
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45:Self-control is strength. Right thought is mastery. Calmness is power. ~ James Allen
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46:Self-control is the ability to restrain a laugh at the wrong place. ~ Elbert Hubbard
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47:Self-control is strength. Right thought is mastery. Calmness is power. ~ James Allen
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48:Anger doesn't demand action. When you act in anger, you lose self-control. ~ Joe Hyams
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49:Let's ask God to help us to self-control for one who lacks it, lacks his grace. ~ Rumi
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50:In that power of self-control lies the seed of eternal freedom. ~ Paramahansa Yogananda
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51:As far as your self-control goes, as far goes your freedom. ~ Marie von Ebner Eschenbach
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52:Self-control is strength; Right Thought is mastery; Calmness is power. Say ~ James Allen
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53:We have to learn how to control our minds. We have to learn self-control. ~ Francis Chan
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54:A truly nice smile combined with self-control can take a person a long way. ~ Dean Koontz
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55:But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. ~ Dale Carnegie
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56:Freedom doesn’t come through banning; freedom lies in mastering self-control. ~ Beem Weeks
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57:Freedom comes from moral self-control. There is no other way to achieve it. ~ Dennis Prager
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58:The greatest power of ruling consists in the exercise of self-control. ~ Seneca the Younger
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59:A man makes inferiors his superiors by heat; self-control is the rule. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
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60:Self-help and self-control are the essence of the American tradition. ~ Franklin D Roosevelt
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61:The answer to crime is not gun control, it is law enforcement and self-control. ~ Alan Keyes
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62:Willpower is more than just a metaphor; self-control is a finite resource. ~ Robert M Sapolsky
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63:28 A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. ~ Anonymous
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64:in a great show of self-control, I stopped myself from telling him to fuck off. ~ Richelle Mead
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65:got to maximize our self-control reserves to be effective at changing ourselves. ~ Stephen Guise
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66:God’s supernatural self-control is available to us when we walk by the Spirit. ~ Elizabeth George
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67:reclaim the ability to abstain because within it is your clarity and self-control. ~ Ryan Holiday
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68:The conclusion is straightforward : self-control requires attention and effort. ~ Daniel Kahneman
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69:Let's ask God to help us to self-control for one who lacks it, lacks his grace. ~ Jalaluddin Rumi,
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70:A man who is good from docility, and not from stern self-control, has no character. ~ Henry Hazlitt
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71:Any systems approaching perfect self-control also approaches perfect self-frustration. ~ Alan Watts
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72:self-care, and remembering what matters most—are the foundation for self-control. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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73:Self-control might be as passionate and as active as the surrender to passion. ~ W Somerset Maugham
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74:28 Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control. ~ Anonymous
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75:Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city. ~ Anonymous
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76:In the supremacy of self-control consists one of the perfections of the ideal man. ~ Herbert Spencer
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77:The problem is the difference between want and need is a thin line called self-control. ~ K Bromberg
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78:How much maltreatment and exploitation could someone handle before losing self-control? ~ Mary Kubica
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79:Your character must be above suspicion and you must be truthful and self-controlled. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
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80:It is the business of a general to be serene and inscrutable, impartial and self-controlled. ~ Sun Tzu
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81:Strict exercise of self-control is an essential feature of the Christian's life. ~ Dietrich Bonhoeffer
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82:The idea of building grit and building self-control is that you get that through failure, ~ Paul Tough
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83:The most important attribute of man as a moral being is the faculty of self-control. ~ Herbert Spencer
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84:We talk a lot here about grit and self-control. The kids know what those words mean ~ Malcolm Gladwell
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85:I garner what remains of my self-control and tell myself the truth: Not mine, not ever. ~ Tarryn Fisher
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86:[Prov. 25:28] Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control. ~ Anonymous
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87:Fighting is easier than loving, just as giving in to anger is easier than self-control. ~ Donna Lynn Hope
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88:Self-measurement brings self-awareness, and self-awareness strengthens our self-control. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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89:It is a fact that the majority of a man's griefs comes about through lack of self-control. ~ Napoleon Hill
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90:The person who masters himself through self-control and discipline is truly undefeatable. ~ Gautama Buddha
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91:you must reclaim the ability to abstain because within it is your clarity and self-control. ~ Ryan Holiday
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92:It takes every fucking ounce of my self-control to say the next three words. 'Lead the way. ~ Liz Reinhardt
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93:Everything dictated silence and self-control but I couldn't restrain myself and spoke my mind. ~ Philip Roth
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94:Habits make change possible by freeing us from decision making and from using self-control. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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95:You know that it’s hard work to consistently apply self-awareness, empathy, and self-control, ~ Jen Shirkani
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96:Prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled;...As obedient children, do not conform to the ~ Beth Moore
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97:Self-control brings calm to the mind, without it the seed of all the virtues perishes ~ Fo-shu-hing-tsan-king
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98:If devotees do not progress, it is because they discard their weapons of self-control; ~ Paramahansa Yogananda
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99:else. Self-measurement brings self-awareness, and self-awareness strengthens our self-control. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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100:...experiencing life as a victim instead of living it purposefully with a feeling of self-control. ~ Henry Cloud
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101:Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control, These three alone lead life to sovereign power. ~ Eric Butterworth
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102:According to the virginity movement, men have no self-control when it comes to anything sexual. ~ Jessica Valenti
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103:Easy, Marks,' he whispered. 'One of us has to have some self-control, and it really should be you. ~ Lisa Kleypas
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104:Everything that liberates our mind without at the same time imparting self-control is pernicious’. ~ Gary Lachman
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105:I’ve known a lot of political figures but never another one whose self-control seemed so fragile. ~ David Downing
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106:lack of self-control, unforgiveness, selfishness, pride, deceit, laziness, and lack of faith. ~ Emerson Eggerichs
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107:Self-control is the chief element in self-respect, and self-respect is the chief element in courage. ~ Thucydides
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108:Sam: “You—you greatly overestimate my self-control.” Grace: “I’m not looking for self-control. ~ Maggie Stiefvater
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109:To exert self-control, you need to find your motivation when it matters. This is “I want” power. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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110:Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control; these three alone lead one to sovereign power. ~ Alfred Lord Tennyson
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111:An animal will conquer others. A Spirit-filled man conquers himself – self-discipline, self-control. ~ Mark Driscoll
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112:Do you have deep feelings for nature or do you year detachment? Do you prefer sex or self-control? ~ Sarah Macdonald
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113:My teaching is not for self-control, self-discipline. My teaching is for self-awareness, self-transformation. ~ Osho
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114:An animal will conquer others. A Spirit-filled man conquers himself - self-discipline , self-control. ~ Mark Driscoll
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115:It must take the most incredible self-control, that stillness, that passivity; it must be exhausting. ~ Paula Hawkins
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116:Sam: “You—you greatly overestimate my self-control.”
Grace: “I’m not looking for self-control. ~ Maggie Stiefvater
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117:So, if weight loss is your goal, and you have impressive self-control, raw food is something to consider. ~ A J Jacobs
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118:9likewise also m that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, ~ Anonymous
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119:Meanness is a monster that usurps your self-control because you cowardly allow it to conquer you. ~ Richelle E Goodrich
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120:Above all, Peter, we must be gentle. Self-controlled. This is how others see the love of Christ in us. ~ Roseanna M White
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121:Conscientiousness comprises industriousness, self-control, stick-to-itiveness, and a desire for order. ~ Daniel J Levitin
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122:I would have swapped out Donald Trump's frontal cortex for somebody else's for a little more self-control. ~ David Brooks
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123:When the Archchancellor spoke, it was calmly and carefully, every word hammered on the anvil of self-control. ~ Anonymous
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124:I had no self-control, but tomorrow I would relinquish control and everything would be right again. ~ Carmen Maria Machado
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125:Roam in the world as a lion of self-control; see that the frogs of weakness don’t kick you around. ~ Paramahansa Yogananda
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126:If you meet temptation, use self-control; if you meet pain, use fortitude; if you meet revulsion, use patience. ~ Epictetus
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127:Self-control is strength; Right Thought is mastery; Calmness is power. Say unto your heart, "Peace, be still! ~ James Allen
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128:The is a secret for greater self-control, the science points to one thing: the power of paying attention. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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129:There is no liberty, save wisdom and self-control. Liberty is within--not without. It is each man's own affair. ~ H G Wells
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130:I have a great objection to seeing anyone, particularly anyone whom I care about, lose his self-control. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
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131:Self-knowledge—especially of how we find ourselves in willpower trouble—is the foundation of self-control. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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132:But insight doesn't necessarily produce self-control. Sometimes you just see your destructiveness more clearly. ~ Keith Ablow
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133:A votary of ahimsa must cultivate the habit of unremitting toil, sleepless vigilance, ceaseless self-control. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
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134:I wanted to wipe the grin off his face with a fist. I resisted the urge. Who says I have no self-control? ~ Laurell K Hamilton
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135:Self-control issues are most likely to arise when choices and their consequences are separated in time. ========== ~ Anonymous
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136:Self-control is the chief element in self-respect, and respect of self, in turn, is the chief element in courage. ~ Thucydides
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137:True genius, in strategy or anywhere, lies in self-control, self-mastery, presence of mind, fluidity of thought. ~ Robert Greene
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138:Industry, thrift and self-control are not sought because they create wealth, but because they create character. ~ Calvin Coolidge
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139:Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. To these I commit my day. ~ Max Lucado
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140:once a weak person gets really frightened, they get quite savage with terror and they’ve no self-control at all. ~ Agatha Christie
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141:Emotional self-control-- delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort ~ Daniel Goleman
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142:Self-control means wanting to be effective at some random point in the infinite radiations of my spiritual existence. ~ Franz Kafka
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143:But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. ~ Anonymous
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144:CALMNESS of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. It is the result of long and patient effort in self-control. ~ James Allen
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145:And strangely, even though he still stared at the store, I felt like I had more self-control then he did right then. ~ Jennifer Echols
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146:If he makes himself as good as he tells others to be, then he in truth can teach others. Difficult indeed is self-control. ~ Anonymous
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147:There never has been and cannot be a good life without self-control. Apart from self-control no good life is imaginable. ~ Leo Tolstoy
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148:Four innate sentiments dispose people to a universal moral sense. These are sympathy, fairness, self-control and duty. ~ James Q Wilson
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149:If you neglect to exercise self-control, you are not only likely to injure others, but you are sure to injure yourself! ~ Napoleon Hill
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150:It wasn’t sportsmanlike for a man to be so annihilating to a woman’s self-control. He ought to be regulated, like a weapon. ~ Eva Leigh
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151:The self-control was something achieved, not inherited, and often masked combustible emotions that could explode in fury. ~ Ron Chernow
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152:He discovered that self-control is not genetic or fixed, but rather a skill one can develop and improve with practice.8 ~ Jocelyn K Glei
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153:Part of the fruit of the Spirit is self-control. Once you get married, however, a good defense is frequency and freedom. ~ Mark Driscoll
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154:Showing a lack of self-control is in the same vein granting authority to others: 'Perhaps I need someone else to control me. ~ Criss Jami
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155:the fruit of the Spirit k is love, l joy, m peace, patience, n kindness, o goodness, faith, B 23 gentleness, p self-control. ~ Anonymous
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156:There are men steady and wise whose body, words and mind are self-controlled. They are the men of supreme self-control. ~ Publilius Syrus
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157:I suspect she must speak without emotion or otherwise entirely lose the self-control that is required to speak to me at all. ~ Dean Koontz
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158:the children who had shown more self-control as four-year-olds had substantially higher scores on tests of intelligence. ~ Daniel Kahneman
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159:• The key muscles fueling positive emotional energy are self-confidence, self-control, interpersonal effectiveness and empathy. ~ Anonymous
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160:I value self-discipline, but creating systems that make it next to impossible to misbehave is more reliable than self-control. ~ Tim Ferriss
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161:Self-control is an illusion. It’s an illusion that occurs when both brains are aligned and pursuing the same course of action. ~ Mark Manson
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162:Being in the library is so addictive for me that I really have to exercise self-control so I can get some writing done at home. ~ Janet Fitch
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163:If I never do something, it requires no self-control for me; if I do something sometimes, it requires enormous self-control. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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164:In the act of creativity, the artist lets go the self-control which he normally clings to and is open to riding the wind. ~ Madeleine L Engle
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165:The end of everything is near. Therefore, practice self-control, and keep your minds clear so that you can pray.
1 Corinthians ~ Anonymous
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166:Among the hard lessons which varying Fortune teaches to those whom she most neglects, there is none so useful as self-control. ~ Emmuska Orczy
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167:But eventually I gave up: on sleeping, on self-control, on my career, on myself. I gave up on all of it. I just fucking gave up. ~ Cat Marnell
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168:One of the tasks of System 2 is to overcome the impulses of System 1. In other words, System 2 is in charge of self-control. ~ Daniel Kahneman
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169:Self-control which lies on a man like a fine garment, falls away from him who negligently gives himself up to slumber. ~ Fo-shu-hing-tsan-king
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170:The wise man, by vigor, mindfulness, restraint, and self-control, creates for himself an island which no flood can submerge. ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
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171:I know you think that I have some kind of perfect, unyielding self-control, but that's not actually the case. - Edward Cullen ~ Stephenie Meyer
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172:Those who lack self-control lead disturbed and tumultuous lives; their crimes are balanced by their fears, and they are never at ease. ~ Seneca
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173:We’ll end up with a society where the people with decent self-control win back a lot of the lost health gains by better behavior. ~ Tyler Cowen
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174:for financial success, self-control in childhood proved a stronger predictor than either IQ or social class of the family of origin. ~ Anonymous
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175:I suppose it’s comfort, perhaps a sense of self-control, doing worse things to yourself than the world will ever dare inflict. ~ Chuck Palahniuk
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176:Some models of self-control are able to achieve their serenity easily because the soul fires never burn brightly to begin with. ~ Joseph J Ellis
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177:Losing self-control, some in Punjab, he said, had taken to violence; losing self-respect, others had obeyed the Crawling Order. ~ Rajmohan Gandhi
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178:Up until now, I've been very, very good. The image of self-control. I've wanted but I haven't taken. Haven't touch. Havent' tasted... ~ Susan Sey
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179:I suppose it’s a comfort, perhaps a sense of self-control, doing worse damage to yourself than the world will ever dare inflict. ~ Chuck Palahniuk
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180:I suppose it’s a comfort, perhaps a sense of self-control, doing worse damage to yourself then the world will ever dare inflict. ~ Chuck Palahniuk
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181:I suppose it's comfort, perhaps a sense of self-control, doing worse things to yourself than the world will ever dare to inflict. ~ Chuck Palahniuk
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182:Anger is like a flame blazing up and consuming our self-control, making us think, say, and do things that we will probably regret later. ~ Nhat Hanh
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183:Humility, reverence, compassion, forbearance, sacrifice and self-control are the qualities that reveal the outcome of the true education. ~ Sai Baba
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184:My quarrel with the advocates of contraceptives lies in their taking for granted that ordinary mortals cannot exercise self-control. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
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185:We become just by the practice of just actions, self-controlled by exercising self-control, and courageous by performing acts of courage. ~ Aristotle
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186:For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but of power and of love and of calm and well balanced mind and discipline and self-control. ~ Anonymous
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187:Self-control is completely necessary for increasing and raising your attention level. One of the places you practice that is at work. ~ Frederick Lenz
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188:Surveys proved that people had less confidence in overweight public figures, who were subconsciously perceived to be lacking in self-control. ~ Jo Nesb
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189:Ultimately, self-control lets you relax because it removes stress and enables you to conserve willpower for the important challenges. ~ Laura Vanderkam
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190:Any fool can criticise, condemn and complain – and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. ~ Anonymous
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191:Does what happened keep you from acting with justice, generosity, self-control, sanity, prudence, honesty, humility, straightforwardness? ~ Ryan Holiday
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192:Self-knowledge is better than self-control any day," Raquel said firmly. "And I know myself well enough to know how I act around cookies. ~ Claudia Gray
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193:We need to exercise self-control and resist storing our belongings until we have finished identifying what we really want and need to keep. ~ Marie Kond
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194:He says no one can help me out of it, that I must use my will and self-control and not let any silly fancies run away with me. ~ Charlotte Perkins Gilman
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195:Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. ~ Dale Carnegie
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196:As your child’s heavenly Father, God is intimately concerned that your child mature into a person of love, responsibility, and self-control. ~ Henry Cloud
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197:be “self-control fatigue,” or as he coined it, ego depletion. These studies led Baumeister to argue that self-control is a limited resource. ~ Emma Sepp l
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198:Oneself, indeed, is one's own protector.
What other protector could there be?
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One gains a protector hard to obtain. ~ Anonymous
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199:... self-control is not control by oneself through one's own willpower but rather control of oneself through the power of the Holy Spirit. ~ Jerry Bridges
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200:Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. ~ Dale Carnegie
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201:I tried to avoid it coming to that, but it was bound to happen...My attraction to you has tested my self-control and my concentration. ~ Allison van Diepen
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202:With habits, we don’t make decisions, we don’t use self-control, we just do the thing we want ourselves to do—or that we don’t want to do. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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203:A clear rule for self-control handed down by the Fathers is this: stop eating while still hungry and do not continue until you are satisfied. ~ John Cassian
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204:Any fool can criticise, condemn and complain – and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. ~ Dale Carnegie
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205:Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. ~ Dale Carnegie
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206:I'm much softer than people think. I don't present to the world an emotional face. I'm pretty good at self-control, but I am easily moved. ~ Christopher Lee
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207:She allowed the feeling to emerge, regardless of whether it was good or bad; she was sick of self-control, of masks, of appropriate behavior. ~ Paulo Coelho
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208:Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be under-standing and forgiving. ~ Dale Carnegie
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209:every soul is deprived of truth against its will. The same holds true for justice, self-control, goodwill to others, and every similar virtue. ~ Ryan Holiday
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210:I was used to being perceived as having a good attitude. Self-control, self-effacement, self-denial. People like this, especially in girls. ~ Stephanie Grant
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211:Does what happened keep you from acting with justice, generosity, self-control, sanity, prudence, honesty, humility, straightforwardness? Nope. ~ Ryan Holiday
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212:The need to fit in, cooperate, and maintain long-term relationships put pressure on our early human brains to develop strategies for self-control. ~ Anonymous
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213:Human nature is complex. Even if we do have inclinations toward violence, we also have inclination to empathy, to cooperation, to self-control. ~ Steven Pinker
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214:It's okay to be a fat man. It's prestige and power and all of that. But fat women are seen as just lazy and stupid and having no self-control. ~ Camryn Manheim
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215:Resisting temptation and instilling self-control are general human goals, and repeatedly failing to achieve them is a source of much of our misery. ~ Dan Ariely
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216:they have been raised to expect so little of men that the idea of men as savage beings with no self-control is somehow acceptable. We ~ Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
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217:A Durkheimian society would value self-control over self-expression, duty over rights, and loyalty to one’s groups over concerns for out-groups. ~ Jonathan Haidt
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218:For some reason, the strength and deadliness he keeps so easily leashed make him the most compelling man I've ever met. I envy his self-control. ~ Amanda Bouchet
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219:It takes extraordinary wisdom and self-control to accept that many things have a logic we do not understand that is smarter than our own. ~ Nassim Nicholas Taleb
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220:He frequently lost all self-control and his language grew increasingly violent. In his intimate circle he now found no restraining influence.47 ~ William L Shirer
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221:When we rise above our temptations and resist them, we exercise self-control. And that's when we experience true freedom and emotional health. ~ David J Lieberman
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222:AS one instructs others,
So should one do oneself:
Only the self-controlled should restrain others.
Truly, it's hard to restrain oneself. ~ Gautama Buddha
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223:Tantra is for the person who has self control but doesn't care anymore. It is for the person who is able to abandon self-control and its fixation. ~ Frederick Lenz
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224:And they have been raised to expect so little of men that the idea of men as savage beings with no self-control is somehow acceptable. We ~ Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
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225:He says no one but myself can help me out of it, that I must use my will and self-control and not let any silly fancies run away with me. ~ Charlotte Perkins Gilman
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226:Not superstitious rites but self-control allied to benevolence and beneficence towards all beings are in truth the rites one should accomplish in all places. ~ Asoka
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227:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law. ~ Anonymous
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228:Since self-control is a muscle that tires easily, it is much better to avoid temptation in the first place rather than try to resist it once it arises. ~ David Brooks
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229:Some men, who begin by saying that the world is a hell, often end by saying that it is a heaven when they succeed in the practice of self-control. ~ Swami Vivekananda
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230:The level of your self-control is measured as the difference between how you act when you have nothing and how you react when you have everything. ~ Israelmore Ayivor
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231:Truth, purity, self-control, firmness, fearlessness, humility, unity, peace, and renunciation - these are the inherent qualities of a civil resister. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
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232:Trophies should go to the winners. Self-esteem does not lead to success in life. Self-discipline and self-control do, and sports can help teach those. ~ Roy Baumeister
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233:Abstention, self-control, self-inflicted pain: these are forms of power - about the only kind you can have when you're a fourteen-year-old girl, by the way. ~ Meg Howrey
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234:As a child, be well-behaved.
As a youth, be self-controlled.
As an adult, be just.
As an elder, be wise.
As one dying, be without pain. ~ Peter Frankopan
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235:But the self-controlled man, moving among objects, with his senses under restraint, and free from both attraction and repulsion, attains peace. ~ Chinmayananda Saraswati
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236:Self-control is like quietly walking through the trees and calmly trying to find your way out of the forest. Self-mastery is like being okay in the forest. ~ Joan Marques
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237:22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. ~ Anonymous
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238:By constant self-discipline and self-control you can develop greatness of character. Grenville Kleiser Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. ~ Jim Rohn
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239:Control over the lower impulsions is the first step towards realisation.
~ The Mother, Words Of The Mother II, Weaknesses, DESIRES, IMPULSES AND SELF-CONTROL, [253] [T7],
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240:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. ~ Anonymous
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241:Liberty is the prevention of control by others. This requires self-control and, therefore, religious and spiritual influences; education, knowledge, well-being. ~ Lord Acton
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242:Love is a slow peeling away of sense and self-control. Once that’s gone you are left with foolish decisions and desperate acts. To be in love is to be a slave. ~ Lola St Vil
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243:but a noble cause demanded noble behavior from its advocates, something finer and more self-controlled than run-of-the-mill insults and cheap, adolescent shots. ~ Paul Auster
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244:If I always behave with propriety, no matter what it costs me to suppress my own desires, then that is the measure of me. Such is the essence of self-control. ~ Frank Herbert
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245:A good shot must necessarily be a good man since the essence of good marksmanship is self-control and self-control is the essential quality of a good man. ~ Theodore Roosevelt
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246:...they believe that children can achieve these goals only if they respect boundaries and have self-control. So alongside character, there has to be cadre. ~ Pamela Druckerman
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247:Hitler was undoubtedly a genius but he lacked self-control. He recognized no limits. Otherwise the thousand-year Reich would have lasted more than twelve years. ~ Wilhelm Frick
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248:Panic attacks are a lot like being drunk in some ways, you lose self-control. You cry for seemingly no reason. You deal with the hangover long into the next day. ~ Sara Barnard
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249:You can almost define a convict as one who lacks precisely the kind of wisdom and self-control necessary to derive long-term advantage from short-term discomfort. ~ Stephen Fry
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250:To the best of my judgment, when I look at the human character I see no virtue placed there to counter justice. But I see one to counter pleasure: self-control. ~ Marcus Aurelius
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251:Anger, as long as it is controlled anger, is no obstacle to efficiency. Self-control is one thing the sociopath does not usually possess. Use yours to his undoing. ~ Jeff Cooper
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252:In literature, the best authors help us see and appreciate love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal. 5:22–23). ~ Tony Reinke
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253:There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone,” I said diplomatically. Unless that person turns your world upside down and makes you lose all self-control. ~ Richelle Mead
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254:Peace is self-control at its widest-at the width where the "self" has been lost, and interest has been transferred to coordinations wider than personality. ~ Alfred North Whitehead
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255:Sometimes it takes all my resolution and power of self-control to refrain from butting my head against the wall. I want to howl and foam at the mouth but I daren't. ~ Joseph Conrad
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256:Dominate the market with your products of self-control; no matter how many temptations produced by the devil, you will still overcome with profits of excellence! ~ Israelmore Ayivor
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257:Punishment may make us obey the orders we are given, but at best it will only teach an obedience to authority, not a self-control which enhances our self-respect. ~ Bruno Bettelheim
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258:Self-compassion - being supportive and kind to yourself, especially in the face of stress and failure - is associated with more motivation and better self-control. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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259:The Indian gods are imposing, the Greek gods are not. Indeed they are not brave, not self-controlled, they have no manners, they are not gentlemen and ladies. ~ Gerard Manley Hopkins
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260:if the only thing motivating your self-control is the desire to be a good enough person, you’re going to give in whenever you’re already feeling good about yourself. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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261:Edging,” said Gray. “The ability to keep a sub in a heightened state of sexual arousal. Or in Jack terms: basic fucking self-control.” All humour had gone from his voice. ~ Jack L Pyke
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262:I wear my composure like a suit of armor, for better or worse. In some ways, it felt like I had been training for this latest feat of self-control for decades. ~ Hillary Rodham Clinton
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263:Those who have accomplished the greatest results are those...who never grow excited or lose self-control, but are always calm, self-possessed, patient and polite. ~ Booker T Washington
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264:Willpower is more than just a metaphor; self-control is a finite resource. Frontal neurons are expensive cells, and expensive cells are vulnerable cells. Consistent ~ Robert M Sapolsky
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265:28Like a city that is broken down and without walls [leaving it unprotected] Is a man who has no self-control over his spirit [and sets himself up for trouble]. [Prov 16:32] ~ Anonymous
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266:This freedom from decision making is crucial, because when I have to decide—which often involves resisting temptation or postponing gratification—I tax my self-control. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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267:Overloading attention shrinks mental control. Life immersed in digital distractions creates a near constant cognitive overload. And that overload wears out self-control. ~ Daniel Goleman
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268:Seeing an Earl as an owl on a mantelpiece, and having part of one's face removed by a cat, both on the same morning, can temporarily undermine the self-control of any man. ~ Mervyn Peake
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269:Because he’s Easton Royal and I have zero self-control, because my sore heart needs all the sun it can get, because I love him back, I throw myself into his arms and kiss him. ~ Erin Watt
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270:If you can't manage yourself, you can't manage your time. Discipline and self-control are what get you on track to execute your plans by managing your time effectively! ~ Israelmore Ayivor
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271:So where should we start? It’s helpful to begin with habits that most directly strengthen self-control; these habits serve as the Foundation for forming other good habits. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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272:the difference quite often lies in the abilities called here emotional intelligence, which include self-control, zeal and persistence, and the ability to motivate oneself. ~ Daniel Goleman
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273:We could just turn our phones and computers off – but we don’t. And we don’t blame ourselves for our lack of self-control: we blame our technology for being too addictive. ~ China Mi ville
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274:22But e the fruit of the Spirit is f love, joy, peace, patience, g kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 h gentleness, i self-control; j against such things there is no law. ~ Anonymous
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275:Our misery. This suppression of our rational mind is the source of inspiration. Suffering takes us out of our rational self-control and lets the divine channel through us. ~ Chuck Palahniuk
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276:But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. GALATIANS 5:22–23 ~ Joel Osteen
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277:Man's mental power, happiness, self-control, clear-sightedness, morals, and even his spiritual growth may be increased by an understanding of the "Science of Breath. ~ William Walker Atkinson
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278:Anna, with a show of supreme self-control, did not immediately fall to the floor. She managed to say yes, the library, yes, she would love to see it, yes, library, yes, yes... ~ Cassandra Clare
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279:I mean that you feel tired because the following three psychological factors drain you: high-intensity emotions, self-control, and high-intensity negative thoughts. HIGH-INTENSITY ~ Emma Sepp l
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280:Kelly said, “That was the greatest show of self-control I have ever seen. If that was me, I would have taken that resignation letter and shoved it up his ass six different times. ~ Bob Woodward
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281:The list of situations and tasks that are now known to deplete self-control is long and varied. All involve conflict and the need to suppress a natural tendency. They include: ~ Daniel Kahneman
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282:But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. GALATIANS 5:22–23 NIV, ~ Joyce Meyer
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283:But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. ~ Nicholas Sparks
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284:Emotional control is essential for attaining higher levels of mind. The thing that the teacher looks for in a student is the degree of self-control, not coldness that someone has. ~ Frederick Lenz
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285:He wanted to take Homer Wells in his arms, and hug him, and kiss him, but he could only hope that Homer understood how much Dr. Larch's self-esteem was dependent on his self-control. ~ John Irving
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286:The first thing I would do for anyone who's trying to lose body fat, for instance, would be to remove foods from the house that he or she would consume during lapses of self-control. ~ Tim Ferriss
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287:I am thankful for the adversities, which have crossed my pathway, for they taught me tolerance, sympathy, self-control, perseverance and some other virtues I might never have known. ~ Napoleon Hill
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288:She tried to keep her voice steady, but it was pretense, like pretending self-control when something you loved was dead in front of your eyes. They would have to separate here. ~ Patricia Highsmith
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289:Beneath her self-control, though he did not guess it, was the impatience of the keen brain watching a slower brain laboriously cover the ground it had already traversed in a flash. ~ Agatha Christie
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290:Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. To these I commit my day. If I succeed, I will give thanks. If I fail, I will seek his grace. ~ Max Lucado
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291:Self-control, openness, the ability to engage with others, to plan and to persist - these are the attributes that get people in the door and on the job, and lead to productive lives. ~ James Heckman
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292:I had seen her in a temper before – I tell her it's her French grandfather's fault, Mediterranean lack of self-control – and I knew she'd settle down now she'd taken it out on the tree. ~ Tana French
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293:Emotional stoicism and self-control are rewarded, and displays of emotion are punished. Vulnerability is now weakness. Anger becomes an acceptable substitute for fear, which is forbidden. ~ Bren Brown
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294:She wanted this man with an intensity that defied logic. Which was part of the reason she’d been ignoring him. A girl only had so much self-control when faced with all this deliciousness. ~ Katie Reus
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295:This is why tidying must start with discarding. We need to exercise self-control and resist storing our belongings until we have finished identifying what we really want and need to keep. ~ Marie Kond
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296:His love is the soil in which all the fruits of the Spirit grow. When our roots abide there, then joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control grow naturally in our hearts. ~ J D Greear
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297:It's taking all my self-control not to fuck you on the hood of this car, just to show you that you're mine, and if I want to buy you a fucking car, I'll buy you a fucking car" Christian Grey ~ E L James
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298:Tell him, on the contrary, that he needs, in the interest of his own happiness, to walk in the path of humility and self-control, and he will be indifferent, or even actively resentful. ~ Irving Babbitt
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299:The Russian leaders are keen judges of human psychology, and as such they are highly conscious that loss of temper and of self-control is never a source of strength in political affairs. ~ George F Kennan
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300:moral culture that brought together several ancient traditions: a chivalric devotion to service and courtesy, a stoic commitment to emotional self-control, and a classical devotion to honor. ~ David Brooks
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301:True love isn't expressed in passionately whispered words an intimate kiss or a embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid. ~ Joshua Harris
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302:all that we know theologically must be “accessed” by our heart with all the joy, peace, self-control, love, durability, patience, and graciousness that it should produce in a human being. ~ Timothy J Keller
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303:In a state of flow, however, maintaining focused attention on these absorbing activities requires no exertion of self-control, thereby freeing resources to be directed to the task at hand. ~ Daniel Kahneman
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304:It was Nathaniel's fault Andrew's self-control was in shreds, but it was also for his sake. Andrew's bottomless rage would never hurt Nathaniel, and that made all the difference in the world. ~ Nora Sakavic
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305:I would force myself again and again to guard against my own overeagerness. Such self-control was crucial, for many times it led to great victories when self-indulgence might have led to defeats. ~ Xenophon
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306:Responsibility and confidence and self-control are internal, so don't overlook the quiet guy in the corner. He might be shorter, and yet able to drop you to your knees with a low command. ~ Cherise Sinclair
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307:You lack self-control. Discipline. And that is what separates art from emotion. I do not think you have the intelligence yet to interpret your feelings. But I do not think you are stupid. ~ Stephanie Danler
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308:if you have had to force yourself to do something, you are less willing or less able to exert self-control when the next challenge comes around. The phenomenon has been named ego depletion. ~ Daniel Kahneman
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309:Learn that happiness comes through self-control and not being angry or jealous. The only one that you really torment is yourself. It is easier to let go and gain new ways of looking at life. ~ Frederick Lenz
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310:His mother had drummed it into him and his brothers not to treat women like disposable goods. Hell, he had every bit as much sexual drive as the next man. He just had more self-control. Getting ~ Pamela Clare
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311:I’d asked myself, “Why do habits make it possible for people to change?” and now I knew the answer. Habits make change possible by freeing us from decision making and from using self-control. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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312:The idea of building grit and building self-control is that you get that through failure,” Randolph told me. “And in most highly academic environments in the United States, no one fails anything. ~ Paul Tough
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313:Therefore let us repent and pass from ignorance to knowledge, from foolishness to wisdom, from licentiousness to self-control, from injustice to righteousness, from godlessness to God. ~ Clement of Alexandria
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314:There’s a fine line between thinking about somebody and thinking about not thinking about somebody, but I have the patience and the self-control to walk that line for hours—days, if I have to. ~ Jennifer Egan
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315:But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22 ~ Nicholas Sparks
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316:Self-control is a divided battle in one body. The "self" produces desires that "you" must battle with and kick off. Two wrestlers in one body. Just imagine. It's difficult, though rewarding! ~ Israelmore Ayivor
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317:she had to fight for qualities that had not been even in her vocabulary. Patience. Self-discipline. Self-control. Self-abnegation. Chastity. Adaptability to others - this above all. This always. ~ Doris Lessing
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318:The conclusion is straightforward: self-control requires attention and effort. Another way of saying this is that controlling thoughts and behaviors is one of the tasks that System 2 performs. ~ Daniel Kahneman
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319:The man of fixed ingrained principles who has mapped out a straight course, and has the courage and self-control to adhere to it, does not find life complex. Complexities are all of our own making. ~ B C Forbes
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320:There's a fine line between thinking about somebody and thinking about not thinking about somebody, but I have the patience and the self-control to walk that line for hours - days, if I have to. ~ Jennifer Egan
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321:The unflappable Washington then continued with the session as if nothing had happened. It was a classic performance: he exercised the greatest self-control when roiled by the most unruly emotions. ~ Ron Chernow
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322:Fortunate is the person who has developed the self-control to steer a straight course towards his objectives in life, without being swayed from his purpose by either commendation or condemnation. ~ Napoleon Hill
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323:The art of conversation, or the qualification for a good companion, is a certain self-control, which now holds the subject, now lets it go, with a respect for the emergencies of the moment. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
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324:having gobs of babies is just declaring your poor self-control to the neighborhood. It’s like putting out your booze bottles for recycling so everyone can see how much you drink, except it’s sex. ~ Therese Oneill
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325:Everyone who has been truly set free by Jesus Christ expresses liberty in these three ways, first in self-control, next in loving service of our neighbor, and third in obedience to the law of God. ~ John R W Stott
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326:True love isn’t just expressed in passionately whispered words or an intimate kiss or an embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid. ~ Joshua Harris
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327:...I went to Chicago, where I stayed with an eminent gynaecologist and his family...He was obviously a man of very strong sexual passions, and his face was ravaged by the efforts of self-control. ~ Bertrand Russell
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328:Scientific findings suggest that calmness helps you conserve mental energy, allows you to exercise self-control without effort, and reduces the power of negative thoughts by providing perspective. HOW ~ Emma Sepp l
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329:The most important contribution to peace of mind is never to do wrong. Those who lack self-control lead disturbed and tumultuous lives; their crimes are balanced by their fears, and they are never at ease. ~ Seneca
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330:Cigars served me for precisely fifty years as protection and a weapon in the combat of life... I owe to the cigar a great intensification of my capacity to work and a facilitation of my self-control. ~ Sigmund Freud
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331:do your most important work—your ONE Thing—early, before your willpower is drawn down. Since your self-control will be sapped throughout the day, use it when it’s at full strength on what matters most. ~ Gary Keller
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332:maxims from Delphi were carved on to a monument, including: As a child, be well-behaved. As a youth, be self-controlled. As an adult, be just. As an elder, be wise. As one dying, be without pain.24 ~ Peter Frankopan
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333:The biggest enemies of willpower: temptation, self-criticism, and stress. (...) these three skills —self-awareness, self-care, and remembering what matter most— are the foundation for self-control. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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334:It’s hard being in a world that doesn’t understand me and that I can so easily break. It’s a wretched combination, like God was hoping I’d try and destroy his world and was just testing my self-control. ~ Sarah Noffke
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335:I just used to love the sound of especially a female vocal like Ella Fitzgerald for example, it's just that empowering self-control that can make a whole room go silent. I fell in love with that sound. ~ Ella Henderson
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336:Men ask for health in their prayers to the gods: they do not realize that the power to achieve it lies in themselves. Lacking self-control, they perform contrary actions and betray health to their desires. ~ Democritus
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337:When you encounter some problems, if you point your finger at yourself and not at others, this gives you control over yourself and calmness in a situation, where otherwise self-control becomes problematic. ~ Dalai Lama
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338:I think the whole point about self-control, the whole point about willpower, is to help people understand that there are endless self-nudge techniques that can be enormously helpful and are very simple. ~ Walter Mischel
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339:Today Plato is nearly forgotten. His beliefs include the notion that people who govern should be intelligent, rational, self-controlled, and in love with wisdom, an idea that has long been discredited. ~ Bobby Henderson
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340:True love isn’t just expressed in passionately whispered words or
an intimate kiss or an embrace; before two people are married, love is
expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid. ~ Joshua Harris
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341:Gold had discovered, since starting to exercise strenuously several years before, that he was able to make love with greater vitality, stamina, and self-control than formerly, and with much less pleasure. ~ Joseph Heller
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342:The principle of fasting is taught in almost all major world religions as a means of developing a higher level of self-mastery and self-control, and also a deeper awareness of how really dependent we are. ~ Stephen Covey
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343:some self-control, he continued his lesson for Sir Asshole. “Then the endorphins kicked in to the point where she could no longer engage her brain to make the decision to speak her safeword.” He glanced ~ Kallypso Masters
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344:your faith with goodness, goodness with knowledge, 6 knowledge with self-control, self-control with endurance, endurance with godliness, 7 godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. ~ Anonymous
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345:People who feel less guilt and who show compassion toward themselves in the face of failure are better able to regain self-control, while people who feel deeply guilty and full of self-blame struggle more. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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346:The forceful activating impulse of wrong desire is the greatest enemy to the happiness of man. Roam in the world as a lion of self-control; see that the frogs of weakness don’t kick you around.” The ~ Paramahansa Yogananda
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347:In people without rock-solid character, feeling is a deadly enemy of self-control and will always subvert it. The mongoose of a disciplined will under God and good is the only match for the cobra of feeling. ~ Dallas Willard
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348:There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse. It is the root of all emotional self-control, since all emotions, by their very nature, lead to one or another impulse to act. ~ Daniel Goleman
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349:Discernment is the son of good judgment and the father of self-control. When mixed with an already clear conscience, the ability to read the true motives of a critic keeps one's conscience both clear and at ease. ~ Criss Jami
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350:If you're a teacher you have to teach the curriculum, all that stuff, you have to teach morals, you have to teach values, and you have to teach, all-importantly, self-control. Because a lot of kids don't have it. ~ Tony Danza
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351:Self-control is a muscle. If you use it a lot, you use it up. Love is the reverse. The more you love, the more you are capable of loving. And so many people fall in love and through that love discover other loves. ~ Anonymous
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352:Self-control is a big deal in human performance. Getting better depends upon it. You cannot get better if it’s not you who has to get better. You are the performer, period. You are the only thing you can control. ~ Henry Cloud
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353:There can be no self-government without self-discipline. There can be no self-government without self-control. There can be no liberty unless it is grounded in moral discipline and the ability to do what is right. ~ Alan Keyes
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354:Being forced to work, and forced to do your best, will breed in you temperance and self-control, diligence and strength of will, cheerfulness and content, and a hundred virtues which the idle will never know. ~ Charles Kingsley
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355:If there is a secret for greater self-control, the science points to one thing: the power of paying attention. It’s training the mind to recognize when you’re making a choice, rather than running on autopilot. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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356:I've come to believe one of the reasons God designed marriage was to help us grow in holiness and character. We get to practice on a daily basis being humble, kind, sacrificial, self-controlled, and so much more. ~ Jody Hedlund
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357:I’ve come to believe one of the reasons God designed marriage was to help us grow in holiness and character. We get to practice on a daily basis being humble, kind, sacrificial, self-controlled, and so much more. ~ Jody Hedlund
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358:Paul famously wrote, “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.”5 How often do we measure Christian ideas and beliefs by these criteria? ~ Tony Jones
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359:Proverbs 25:28 says, “Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control.” In other words, if we do not control our own lives from the inside, somebody else will control them from the outside. ~ Myles Munroe
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360:The fruit of the Spirit (the evidence of God’s Spirit being in you) is a list of godly characteristics: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22). ~ Lysa TerKeurst
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361:night after night I went to sleep murmuring, 'To-morrow I will be easy, strong, quick, supple, accurate, dashing and self-controlled all at once!' For not less than this is necessary in the Game of Life called Golf. ~ Ethel Smyth
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362:The fruits of the earth are not brought to perfection immediately, but by time, rain and care; similarly, the fruits of men ripen through ascetic practice, study, time, perseverance, self-control and patience. ~ Anthony the Great
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363:Through my parent's reading, I learned to love books. Through their humour, I learned to laugh. Through their discipline I learned obedience, respect, and self-control. It was through their faith that my own was born. ~ Anonymous
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364:What matters, instead, is whether we are able to help her develop a very different set of qualities, a list that includes persistence, self-control, curiosity, conscientiousness, grit, and self-confidence. Economists ~ Paul Tough
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365:You'd be better served if
you gave me a moment to regain my self-control and let me remove my boots. It's the least a
gentleman can do."
"And you're such a gentleman."
"Not with you, love. But I'm trying. ~ Anne Stuart
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366:The clear implication was that the best advice for young writers and aspiring professors is: Write every day. Use your self-control to form a daily habit, and you’ll produce more with less effort in the long run. ~ Roy F Baumeister
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367:you sometimes act as if you think growing up means the rules don’t apply anymore. On the contrary—a big part of growing up is learning self-control. You work on that, and then we can talk about expanding your privileges. ~ Brandon Mull
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368:Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. “A great man shows his greatness,” said Carlyle “by the way he treats little men. ~ Dale Carnegie
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369:Extroversion: response to reward Neuroticism: response to threat Conscientiousness: response to inhibition (self-control, planning) Agreeableness: regard for others Openness to experience: breadth of mental associations ~ Gretchen Rubin
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370:Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. “A great man shows his greatness,” said Carlyle, “by the way he treats little men. ~ Dale Carnegie
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371:God’s vision is a call to move forward into the future in the full operation of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control, with a fearlessness that could only come from him. ~ Sarah Bessey
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372:I turn around and start walking, careful to keep my head down so no one sees the moment when the huge smile I was fighting finally breaks free. It takes every ounce of self-control not to look back and see if he's watching. ~ Kami Garcia
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373:Unlike cognitive load, ego depletion is at least in part a loss of motivation. After exerting self-control in one task, you do not feel like making an effort in another, although you could do it if you really had to. In ~ Daniel Kahneman
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374:When force of circumstance upsets your equanimity lose no time in recovering your self-control, and do not remain out of tune longer than you can help. Habitual recurrence to the harmony will increase your mastery of it. ~ Marcus Aurelius
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375:Wisdom, good lineage, self-control, acquaintance with the scriptures, prowess, absence of garrulity, gift to the extent of one's power, and gratefulness, these eight qualities shed a lustre upon their possessor. ~ Krishna Dwaipayana Vyasa
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376:Any fool can criticise, condemn and complain – and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. ‘A great man shows his greatness,’ said Carlyle, ‘by the way he treats little men. ~ Dale Carnegie
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377:When force of circumstance upsets your equanimity, lose no time in recovering your self-control, and do not remain out of tune longer than you can help. Habitual recurrence to the harmony will increase your mastery of it. ~ Marcus Aurelius
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378:Wisdom, good lineage, self-control, acquaintance with the scriptures, prowess, absence of garrulity, gift to the extent of one's power, and gratefulness, these eight qualities shed a lustre upon their possessor. ~ Krishna-Dwaipayana Vyasa,
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379:Quarrel not at all. No man resolved to make the most of himself can spare time for personal contention. Still less can he afford to take all the consequences, including the vitiating of his temper and loss of self-control. ~ Abraham Lincoln
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380:life was not a joyride at an amusement park. It was a deadly serious affair and only through a combination of solid values, self-control, and a steady commitment to a worthwhile goal was there a chance to achieve happiness. ~ Arthur C Clarke
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381:How blessed and amazing are God's gifts, dear friends! Life with immortality, splendor with righteous, truth with confidence, faith with assurance, self-control with holiness! And all these things are within our comprehension. ~ Pope Clement I
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382:These Nigerians
have been raised to think of women as inherently guilty. And they have been raised to
expect so little of men that the idea of men as savage beings with no self-control is
somehow acceptable. ~ Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
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383:As we make and keep commitments, even small commitments, we begin to establish an inner integrity that gives us the awareness of self-control and the courage and strength to accept more of the responsibility for our own lives. ~ Stephen R Covey
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384:Measuring requires, first and foremost, analytical ability. But it also demands that measurement be used to make self-control possible, rather than abused to control people from the outside and above—that is, to dominate them. ~ Peter F Drucker
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385:Too much concern about how well one is doing in a task sometimes disrupts performance by loading short-term memory with pointless anxious thoughts. The conclusion is straightforward: self-control requires attention and effort. ~ Daniel Kahneman
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386:To succeed in the game of power, you have to master your emotions. But even if you succeed in gaining such self-control, you can never control the temperamental dispositions of those around you. And this presents a great danger. ~ Robert Greene
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387:Neuroscientists have discovered that when you ask the brain to meditate, it gets better, not just at meditating, but at a wide range of self-control skills Over time, [meditators'] brains become finely tuned willpower machines. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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388:The principal use of prudence, of self-control, is that it teaches us to be masters of our passions, and to so control and guide them that the evils which they cause are quite bearable, and that we even derive joy from them all. ~ Rene Descartes
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389:When force of circumstance upsets your equanimity, lose no time in recovering your self-control, and do not remain out of tune longer than you can help. Habitual recurrence to the harmony will increase your mastery of it.“ That’s ~ Brian Johnson
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390:Wherever his faltering mind,
unsteadily wanders,
he should restrain it
and bring it under self-control
Krishna, the mind is faltering,
violent, strong, and stubborn;
I find it as difficult
to hold as the wind. ~ Vikram Seth
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391:Daisy, you’re too damned innocent to understand the danger you’re in. It’s taking all the self-control I’ve got to keep my hands off you. Don’t play games with me, sweetheart. It’s too easy for you to torture me, and I’m at my limit. ~ Lisa Kleypas
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392:To pray is to change. This is a great grace. How good of God to provide a path whereby our lives can be taken over by love and joy and peace and patience and kindness and goodness and faithfulness and gentleness and self-control. ~ Richard J Foster
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393:For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control. 2 TIMOTHY 1:7 ~ Joyce Meyer
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394:He took a strand of hair that had fallen loose from her chignon between his fingers. The gesture shocked her, not because his self-control seemed to have snapped, but the exact opposite - it felt like a deliberate choice on his part. ~ Sherry Thomas
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395:He was very much a man of moods, possibly owing to what is styled the artistic temperment. I have never seen, myself, why the possession of artistic ability should be supposed to excuse a man from a decent exercise of self-control. ~ Agatha Christie
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396:Educate your children to self-control, to the habit of holding passion and prejudice and evil tendencies subject to an upright and reasoning will, and you have done much to abolish misery from their future and crimes from society. ~ Benjamin Franklin
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397:Self-control is an important part of living a Christian life. But you don’t have to do it on your own. God gives you a lot of help along the way. When you’re tempted to do the wrong thing, go the wrong direction, He’s there for you. ~ Tracie Peterson
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398:Please don’t allow yourself to fall victim to “strategic umbrage.” Threats delivered without anger but with “poise”—that is, confidence and self-control—are great tools. Saying, “I’m sorry that just doesn’t work for me,” with poise, works. ~ Chris Voss
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399:There is no difference between a man of the world and a solitary if both have conquered the illusion of the ego; but if the heart isa slave to the desires of the senses, the external signs of self-control serve no useful object. ~ Fo-sho-hing-tsan-king
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400:Those moralists, on the other hand, who, following in the footsteps of Socrates, offer the individual a morality of self-control and temperance as a means to his own advantage, as his personal key to happiness, are the exceptions. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
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401:The constant desire to change yourself then becomes its own sort of addiction: each cycle of "changing yourself" results in similar failures of self-control, therefore making you feel as though you need to "change yourself" all over again. ~ Mark Manson
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402:I'm not tempted by things I've decided are off-limits, but once I've started something, I have trouble stopping. If I never do something, it requires no self-control for me; if I do something sometimes, it requires enormous self-control. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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403:I think the Buddha presents an image of someone who believes in self-control. I think he's offering, perhaps, a critique of the romantic idea of the passions being this wonderful source of life or vitality that define you or your writing. ~ Pankaj Mishra
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404:For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control (2 Timothy 1:7 AMP) ~ James W Goll
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405:January is always a good month for behavioral economics: Few things illustrate self-control as vividly as New Year's resolutions. February is even better, though, because it lets us study why so many of those resolutions are broken. ~ Sendhil Mullainathan
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406:Retirement savings is probably behavioral economists' greatest success story. It is a prototypical behavioral-economics problem because saving for retirement is cognitively hard - figuring out how much to save - and requires self-control. ~ Richard Thaler
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407:The philosophy asserts that virtue (meaning, chiefly, the four cardinal virtues of self-control, courage, justice, and wisdom) is happiness, and it is our perceptions of things—rather than the things themselves—that cause most of our trouble ~ Ryan Holiday
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408:This is the first duty of parents, and no false delicacy should keep them from the watchful care, the gentle warning, which makes self-knowledge and self-control the compass and pilot of the young as they leave the safe harbour of home. ~ Louisa May Alcott
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409:Far from being greedy, America’s leading entrepreneurs—with some exceptions—display discipline and self-control, hard work and austerity, excelling those found in any college of social work, Washington think tank, or congregation of bishops. ~ George Gilder
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410:Neuroscientists have discovered that when you ask the brain to meditate, it gets better not just at meditating, but at a wide range of self-control skills, including attention, focus, stress management, impulse control, and self-awareness. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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411:The philosophy asserts that virtue (meaning, chiefly, the four cardinal virtues of self-control, courage, justice, and wisdom) is happiness, and it is our perceptions of things—rather than the things themselves—that cause most of our trouble. ~ Ryan Holiday
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412:Happy people generally are more forgiving, helpful, and charitable, have better self-control, and are more tolerant of frustration than unhappy people, while unhappy people are more often withdrawn, defensive, antagonistic, and self-absorbed. ~ Gretchen Rubin
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413:I wish you’d let go and be with me,” she whispered against the fingers that brushed against her lips. “You wouldn’t have to worry about self-control then.”
“Eleanor, the first night we make love will be the greatest test of my self-control. ~ Tiffany Reisz
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414:I will” and “I won’t” power are the two sides of self-control, but they alone don’t constitute willpower. To say no when you need to say no, and yes when you need to say yes, you need a third power: the ability to remember what you really want. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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415:This hostility is a poor counterfeit of God’s program of learning discipline. Discipline is the art of teaching children self-control by using consequences. Irresponsible actions should cause discomfort that motivates us to become more responsible. ~ Henry Cloud
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416:Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. It is the result of long and patient effort in self-control. Its presence is an indication of ripened experience, and of a more than ordinary knowledge of the laws and operations of thought. ~ James Allen
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417:O coffee! By the mighty Name of Power do I invoke thee, consecrating thee to the Service of the Magic of Light. Let the pulsations of my heart be strong and regular and slow! Let my brain be wakeful and active in its supreme task of self-control! ~ James Wasserman
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418:Self-control and deliberate thought apparently draw on the same limited budget of effort.... This is how the law of least effort comes to be a law. Even in the absence of time pressure, maintaining a coherent train of thought requires discipline. ~ Daniel Kahneman
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419:So, if you want to get the most out of your day, do your most important work—your ONE Thing—early, before your willpower is drawn down. Since your self-control will be sapped throughout the day, use it when it’s at full strength on what matters most. ~ Gary Keller
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420:Our fundamental tactic of self-protection, self-control, and self-definition is not spinning webs or building dams, but telling stories, and more particularly connecting and controlling the story we tell others - and ourselves - about who we are. ~ Daniel C Dennett
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421:As Plato said, every soul is deprived of truth against its will. The same holds true for justice, self-control, goodwill to others, and every similar virtue. It’s essential to constantly keep this in your mind, for it will make you more gentle to all. ~ Ryan Holiday
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422:Hopt v. Utah, the Supreme Court ruled that a confession is not admissible if it is obtained by operating on the hopes or fears of the accused, and in doing so deprives him of the freedom of will or self-control necessary to make a voluntary statement. ~ John Grisham
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423:I thought The Limits of Control could be interpreted in two ways: as the limits of one's self-control; and as the limits of allowing other people's control over one's - consciousness - which I kind of thought was a double meaning that was appropriate. ~ Jim Jarmusch
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424:She smiled in the darkness. “It is a magic dick,” she teased, hoping she could get a laugh out of him. “No magic involved. It’s just angles and self-control, honey, angles and self-control. But you can think I have a magic dick as long as you want to. ~ Linda Howard
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425:You still need to work on a lot of things,” Diane did not say. “I’m sorry your father isn’t here,” she also did not say. “But I am trying so, so hard. I am, Josh. I am, I am, I am,” she did not say. As far as things go, her self-control was pretty good. ~ Joseph Fink
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426:I want you too badly, love. I want you the way dry earth soaks up rain. There may have been a time in my life when I could have seen you like this and still had some hope of self-control. Although I doubt it. I've never seen anything as beautiful as you. ~ Lisa Kleypas
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427:Sometimes you're overthinking, you convince yourself to get out of it and you're like, "Ah I shoulda did that!" You can't live life with regrets. Sometimes you just gotta indulge. But in the same breath, you gotta have restraint and self-control too. ~ Michael B Jordan
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428:Dear Sumi, This e-mail is to draw your attention to the fact that your husband, Dan Ariely, who is generally an upright citizen, has exceeded his spending limit on chocolate of $50 per month by $73.25. With best wishes, The self-control credit card team Now ~ Dan Ariely
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429:This work somehow awakened my dormant powers of will and I began to practice self-control. At first my resolutions faded like snow in April, but in a little while I conquered my weakness and felt a pleasure I never knew before - that of doing as I willed. ~ Nikola Tesla
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430:if you want to achieve consistent performance, you need both parts of a 20 Mile March: a lower bound and an upper bound, a hurdle that you jump over and a ceiling that you will not rise above, the ambition to achieve and the self-control to hold back. ~ James C Collins
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431:The fact that this same basic approach helps such a wide range of willpower challenges, from depression to drug addiction, confirms that these three skills—self-awareness, self-care, and remembering what matters most—are the foundation for self-control. ~ Kelly McGonigal
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432:Gold is tested by fire; a well-born person, by his deportment; an honest man, by his conduct. A brave man is tested during a season of panic; he that is self-controlled, in times of poverty; and friends and foes, in times of calamity and danger. ~ Krishna Dwaipayana Vyasa
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433:That circumstances grow out of thought every man knows who has for any length of time practised self-control and self-purification, for he will have noticed that the alteration in his circumstances has been in exact ratio with his altered mental condition. So ~ James Allen
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434:We . . . can become dissociated and lose our identity. We can be possessed . . . by moods, or become unreasonable, so that people ask: "What the devil has got into you?" We talk about . . . "control", but self-control is a rare and remarkable virtue. P. 8 ~ Carl Gustav Jung
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435:You’re such a stalker, Seth. How long were you standing there?”
“I am not a stalker, and I was standing there long enough to realize you have no self-control and you’re unstable. I kind of like that about you—mainly because I find it entertaining. ~ Jennifer L Armentrout
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436:attention has become our most precious asset. To spend it wisely, we must develop a better understanding of how temptation works on our brains, cultivate new strategies for enhancing our self-control, and carve out time to truly focus on big, creative tasks. ~ Jocelyn K Glei
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437:From my observation, habits in four areas do most to boost feelings of self-control, and in this way strengthen the Foundation of all our habits. We do well to begin by tackling the habits that help us to: 1. sleep 2. move 3. eat and drink right 4. unclutter ~ Gretchen Rubin
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438:Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. To these I commit my day. If I succeed, I will give thanks. If I fail, I will seek his grace. And then, when this day is done, I will place my head on my pillow and rest. ~ Max Lucado
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439:Roy Baumeister analyzed findings from hundreds of experiments to determine why some people can retain focus for hours, while others can’t. He discovered that self-control is not genetic or fixed, but rather a skill one can develop and improve with practice.8 ~ Jocelyn K Glei
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440:That's Binky," said the heap. "He's just trying to be friendly. I expect he'd like some hay, if you've got any."
With royal self-control, Keli said, "This is the fourth floor. It's a lady's bedroom. You'd be amazed at how many horses we don't get up here. ~ Terry Pratchett
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441:I'm not Buddhist, I'm not Hindu, I'm not Christian, but I still feel like I have a deep connection with God. I pray all the time — for self-control, for humility. There's a lot of gratitude in it. Just saying 'thank you' sometimes is better than asking for things. ~ Katy Perry
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442:It shouldn’t be fire. How could it be, when Peter was all cool reactions and self-control? He’d never sent her a smoldering look. Never flirted, not until just that moment. He’d never been anything but a friend. A gentleman, in the real sense. The true sense. ~ Roseanna M White
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443:Bean also saw how the man’s body moved inside his clothes, with a kind of contained strength that made his clothes seem like Kleenex, he could rip through the fabric just by tugging at it a little, because nothing could hold him in except his own self-control. ~ Orson Scott Card
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444:Achievement of any kind is the crown of effort,the diadem of thought.By the aid of self-control, resolution, purity, righteousness, and well-directed thought a man ascends.By the aid of animality,indolence,impurity,corruption,and confusion of thought a man descends. ~ James Allen
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445:Being a good person likely is more related to distanced feelings of compassion and kindness, along with intelligence, self-control, and a sense of justice. Being a bad person has more to do with a lack of regard for others and an inability to control one’s appetites. ~ Paul Bloom
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446:If anyone comes to the gates of poetry and expects to become an adequate poet by acquiring expert knowledge of the subject without the Muses' madness, he will fail, and his self-controlled verses will be eclipsed by the poetry of men who have been driven out of their minds. ~ Plato
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447:It is evident from their writings that the Founding Fathers would never have tolerated the separation that we have embraced today. They knew that religious principles provided morality and self-control - the lifeblood for the survival of any self-governing community. ~ David Barton
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448:He who runs to the doctor, vaidya, or hakim for every little ailment, and swallows all kinds of vegetable and mineral drugs, not only curtails his life, but by becoming the slave of his body instead of remaining its master, loses self-control, and ceases to be a man. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
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449:We can recognize that instead of lashing back, the best answer is turning the other cheek. This may be easy for some, but for others—especially those who have been deeply hurt—abandoning the urge to inflict injury will require spiritual strength, prayer, and self-control. ~ Anonymous
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450:I’m in love with you,” I responded. He laughed the most beguiling and gentle laugh. “Of course you are,” he replied. “I understand perfectly because I’m in love with myself. The fact that I’m not transfixed in front of the nearest mirror takes a great deal of self-control. ~ Anne Rice
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451:There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse. It is the root of all emotional self-control, since all emotions, by their very nature, lead to one or another impulse to act. The root meaning of the word emotion, remember, is "to move. ~ Daniel Goleman
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452:Buddha's teaching are very simple, you don't have to break your head to understand the message. The part that I like the most from Buddha's teachings and from His Holiness, The Dalai Lama, is that the most powerful weapon is to not attack, to be able to have self-control. ~ Ricky Martin
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453:Does what happened keep you from acting with justice, generosity, self-control, sanity, prudence, honesty, humility, straightforwardness? Nope. Then get back to work! Subconsciously, we should be constantly asking ourselves this question: Do I need to freak out about this? ~ Ryan Holiday
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454:There is one thing you can do when you have doubts about the quality of the evidence: let your judgments of probability stay close to the base rate. Don’t expect this exercise of discipline to be easy—it requires a significant effort of self-monitoring and self-control. ~ Daniel Kahneman
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455:Junk the self-esteem emphasis and teach self-control and good behavior. Self-esteem has limited benefit, whereas self-control is linked to success in life.
Leave behind the obsession with specialness and uniqueness.
Do not automatically side with your child. ~ Jean M Twenge
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456:What is self-control? It is nothing but a highly developed vital sense, dominating and regulating the mere appetites. To overlook the very existence of this supreme sense; to miss the obvious inference that it is the quality that distinguishes the fittest to survive. ~ George Bernard Shaw
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457:Remember that in order to feel hope, we need to feel there's a better future out there (values); we need to feel as though we are capable of getting to that better future (self-control); and we need to find other people who share our values and support our efforts (community). ~ Mark Manson
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458:He flung self-control to the unseen winds of the Force and reached down deep to fully sense her presence. Layers and layers: the living depth of Endor’s teeming forest, the all-enveloping warmth of a night on sandy Tatooine, and the hypnotic glitter of deep space came to mind.… ~ Kathy Tyers
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459:He who has let go of hatred
who treats all beings with kindness
and compassion, who is always serene,
unmoved by pain or pleasure,
free of the "I" and "mine,"
self-controlled, firm and patient,
his whole mind focused on me ---
that is the man I love best. ~ Anonymous
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460:Most of the problems that plague our society - addiction, overeating, crime, domestic violence, prejudice, debt, unwanted pregnancy, educational failure, underperformance at school and work, lack of savings, failure to exercise - are in some degree a failure of self-control. ~ Roy Baumeister
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461:It’s important to connect the so-called temptation with its actual effects. Once you understand that indulging might actually be worse than resisting, the urge begins to lose its appeal. In this way, self-control becomes the real pleasure, and the temptation becomes the regret. ~ Ryan Holiday
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462:Achievement, of whatever kind, is the crown of effort, the diadem of thought. By the aid of self-control, resolution, purity, righteousness, and well-directed thought a man ascends; by the aid of animality, indolence, impurity, corruption, and confusion of thought a man descends. ~ James Allen
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463:I would have swallowed arsenic if someone had promised that it would put me under for at least a few hours—that’s how bad prolonged insomnia feels. But eventually I gave up: on sleeping, on self-control, on my career, on myself. I gave up on all of it. I just fucking gave up. This ~ Cat Marnell
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464:Linden held that abortion was something that had been imposed upon women by men, Meta said that if it hadn’t been for men having no self-control and simply using women as receptacles, abortion would never have been necessary. Either way, they were agreed that it was the fault of men. ~ Jean Ure
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465:The scientific spirit, the contempt of tradition, the lack of discipline and the exaltation of the individual have very nearly made an end of art. It can only be restored by the love of beauty, the reverence for tradition, the submission to discipline and the rigor of self-control. ~ Kenyon Cox
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466:When it comes to yourself, follow God's formula-
deny yourself of overindulgence (Proverbs 23:2 and 30:8),
examine yourself for any sinful habits (1 Corinthians 11:28),
% exercise yourself to godliness (1 Timothy 4:7), and
IK- develop self-control (Galatians 5:23). ~ Elizabeth George
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467:Willpower, psychologist Roy Baumeister analyzed findings from hundreds of experiments to determine why some people can retain focus for hours, while others can’t. He discovered that self-control is not genetic or fixed, but rather a skill one can develop and improve with practice.8 ~ Jocelyn K Glei
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468:Baumeister’s group has repeatedly found that an effort of will or self-control is tiring; if you have had to force yourself to do something, you are less willing or less able to exert self-control when the next challenge comes around. The phenomenon has been named ego depletion. In ~ Daniel Kahneman
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469:Researchers were surprised to find that people with strong self-control spent less time resisting desires than other people did. . . . people with good self-control mainly use it not for rescue in emergencies but rather to develop effective habits and routines in school and at work. ~ Roy Baumeister
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470:The ability of mental concentration, as well as the absolutely essential feeling of obligation to one’s job, are here most often combined with a strict economy which calculates the possibility of high earnings, and a cool self-control and frugality which enormously increase performance. ~ Max Weber
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471:Yes, I want to lose weight. But this journey is so much more than just that. It really is about learning to tell myself no and learning to make wiser choices daily. And somehow becoming a woman of self-discipline honors God and helps me live the godly characteristic of self-control. ~ Lysa TerKeurst
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472:Letty, it's just a business. Don't get emotional about it.”
She grinned. “You're a fine one to talk. You're the most emotional man I know.”
“The hell I am,” he muttered. “I have a lot more self-control than you do, Madam President.”
“Let's not argue about that,” Letty said ~ Jayne Ann Krentz
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473:Science is showing us that there are neurological (brain) factors that contribute to self-control and willpower, along with learning and upbringing. And when these brain systems are functioning improperly or become damaged, normal levels of self-control and willpower are impossible. ~ Russell Barkley
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474:Whenever a challenge arises, turn inward and ask what power you can exercise in the situation. If you meet temptation, use self-control; if you meet pain, use fortitude; if you meet revulsion, use patience. In this way, you will overcome life’s challenges, rather than be overcome by them. ~ Epictetus
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475:Apparently they died from overfeeding. Apparently I overfed them. Apparently fish are terrible glutons with absolutely no self-control who just don't know when they've had enough and will stuff themselves to death with those innocuous little beige flakes imaginatively labeled 'fish food. ~ Steve Toltz
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476:I have long had a tendency to tie marksmanship to morality. The essence of good marksmanship is self-control, and self-control is the essence of good citizenship. It is too easy to say that a good shot is automatically a good man, but it would be equally incorrect to ignore the connection. ~ Jeff Cooper
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477:I love Twitter. It doesn't keep me from writing and I think it's a really convenient scapegoat when the truth is that the real issue is self-control. I am totally fine admitting i have none. I'm not going to blame Twitter for affecting my writing. And also, Twitter doesn't affect my writing. ~ Roxane Gay
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478:When scientists analyze people who appear to have tremendous self-control, it turns out those individuals aren't all that different from those who are struggling. Instead, "disciplined" people are better at structuring their lives in a way that does not require heroic willpower and self-control. ~ James Clear
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479:Every time we linger in bad company whose insidious influence we know we cannot resist, every time we lie in bed when we ought to be up and praying, every time we read pornographic literature, every time we take a risk which strains our self-control, we are sowing, sowing, sowing to the flesh. ~ John R W Stott
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480:Selfish needs, wants, and desires needed to be obliterated. Greed, overindulgence, and gluttony had to be expunged from human behavior. The solution was in self-control, in minimalism, in sparse living conditions; one simple and a brand-new dictionary filled with words everyone would understand. ~ Tahereh Mafi
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481:We split a bottle of Norman cider. Not everybody sells Norman cider by the bottle.
"Has a European feel" Susan said.
"That sounds terrific" I said. "Can I have one?"
Susan grinned at me. "How did you ever get to be so big without growing up?" she said.
"Iron self-control" I said. ~ Robert B Parker
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482:Within every man there is the potential for true manhood. If they learn how to, men can exercise self-control and leadership in any and every situation. But without fathers to help us discover that in healthy ways, we can end up never cultivating our manhood or abusing it and others around us. ~ Darrin Patrick
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483:I am in love with you', I responded. He laughed the most beguiling and gentle laugh. 'Of course you are,' he replied. 'I understand perfectly because I'm in love with myself. The fact that I'm not transfixed in front of the nearest mirror takes a great deal of self-control.' It was my turn to laugh. ~ Anne Rice
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484:He could not forget the touch of her arms around his neck, impatiently felt as it had been at the time; but now the recollection of her clinging defence of him, seemed to thrill him through and through,—to melt away every resolution, all power of self-control, as if it were wax before a fire. ~ Elizabeth Gaskell
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485:I am a spiritual being. After this body is dead, my spirit will soar. I refuse to let what will rot, rule the eternal. I choose self-control. I will be drunk only by joy. I will be impassioned only by my faith. I will be influenced only by God. I will be taught only by Christ. I choose self-control. ~ Max Lucado
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486:Feelings are indicators, not dictators. They can indicate where your heart is in the moment, but that doesn't mean they have the right to dictate your behavior and boss you around. You are more than the sum total of your feelings and perfectly capable of that little gift . . . called self-control. ~ Lysa TerKeurst
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487:is. I think our fundamental Anthropocene dilemma is that we have achieved global impact but have no mechanisms for global self-control. So, to the (debatable) extent that we are like some kind of global organism, we are still a pretty clumsy one, crashing around with little situational awareness, ~ David Grinspoon
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488:I made my people understand the crucial difference between modesty and self-control. The modest person, I told them, will do nothing blameworthy in the light of day, but a true paragon of self-control—which we all should strive to be—avoids unworthy actions even in the deepest secrecy of his private life. ~ Xenophon
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489:Researchers have applied diverse methods to examine the connection between thinking and self-control. Some have addressed it by asking the correlation question: If people were ranked by their self-control and by their cognitive aptitude, would individuals have similar positions in the two rankings? ~ Daniel Kahneman
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490:The next time you are afraid of some supposedly disastrous outcome, remember that if you don’t control your impulses, if you lose your self-control, you may be the very source of the disaster you so fear. It has happened to smarter and more powerful and more successful people. It can happen to us too. ~ Ryan Holiday
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491:Whatever we learn to do, we learn by actually doing it; men come to be builders, for instance, by building, and harp players by playing the harp. In the same way, by doing just acts we come to be just; by doing self-controlled acts, we come to be self-controlled ; and by doing brave acts, we become brave. ~ Aristotle
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492:What principles? Those to do with good and evil, indeed in the belief that there is no good for a human being except what creates justice, self-control, courage and freedom, and nothing evil except what destroys these things.” —MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 8.1.(5) What’s the meaning of life? Why was I ~ Ryan Holiday
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493:Ah, the degenerate materialistic world! People are unhappy; they find self-control difficult. In the centuries since Shakyamuni, false views are deep, Demons are strong, the Dharma is weak, disturbances are many.
~ Hsuan Chueh of Yung Chia, 45 - Ah, the degenerate materialistic world! (from The Shodoka)
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494:countless people step into financial bondage because they spend money they don’t have in order to underwrite a “once in a lifetime opportunity.” God is not behind every good deal! Self-control means turning down most good deals on things we want because God may have other and better plans for his money. ~ Randy Alcorn
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495:The first key to leadership was self-control, particularly the mastery of pride, which was something more difficult, he explained, to subdue than a wild lion and anger, which was more difficult to defeat than the greatest wrestler. He warned them that "if you can't swallow your pride, you can't lead. ~ Jack Weatherford
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496:I am in love with you', I responded.
He laughed the most beguiling and gentle laugh.
'Of course you are,' he replied. 'I understand perfectly because I'm in love with myself. The fact that I'm not transfixed in front of the nearest mirror takes a great deal of self-control.'
It was my turn to laugh. ~ Anne Rice
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497:I think you're fairly strong," said Magnus. "And you have quite a lot of self-control. Look how you sternly repress all the hero worship you are longing to show me that you feel."
"It is sometimes an exercise of real self-control not to laugh in your face," Raphael said gravely. "That much is true. ~ Cassandra Clare
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498:Obesity is the result of a loss of self-control. Indeed, loss of self-control might be said to be the defining social (or anti-social) characteristic of our age: public drunkenness, excessive gambling, promiscuity and common-or-garden rudeness are all examples of our collective loss of self-control. ~ Theodore Dalrymple
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499:We must return to New Testament Christianity, not in creed only but in complete manner of life as well. Separation, obedience, humility, simplicity, gravity, self-control, modesty, cross-bearing: these all must again be made a living part of the total Christian concept and be carried out in everyday conduct. ~ A W Tozer
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500:If you ask him: "What is silence?" he will answer, "It is the Great Mystery! The holy silence is His voice!" If you ask: "What are the fruits of silence?" he will say: "They are self-control, true courage or endurance, patience, dignity, and reverence. Silence is the cornerstone of character." ~ Charles Alexander Eastman
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81 Integral Yoga
8 Yoga
8 Philosophy
6 Occultism
6 Education
4 Psychology
4 Fiction
3 Christianity
2 Poetry
1 Theosophy
42 Sri Aurobindo
32 The Mother
27 Nolini Kanta Gupta
8 A B Purani
7 Swami Krishnananda
6 Satprem
5 Sri Ramakrishna
4 H P Lovecraft
3 Rudolf Steiner
3 Jordan Peterson
3 Friedrich Nietzsche
2 Saint John of Climacus
2 Plotinus
2 Franz Bardon
2 Carl Jung
2 Aldous Huxley
10 Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 05
8 Letters On Yoga IV
8 Evening Talks With Sri Aurobindo
7 The Study and Practice of Yoga
7 Essays In Philosophy And Yoga
6 The Gospel of Sri Ramakrishna
6 On Education
6 Essays On The Gita
5 The Synthesis Of Yoga
5 Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 07
5 Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 04
4 Words Of Long Ago
4 The Human Cycle
4 Lovecraft - Poems
3 Twilight of the Idols
3 The Life Divine
3 Questions And Answers 1957-1958
3 Questions And Answers 1950-1951
3 Maps of Meaning
3 Agenda Vol 05
2 The Perennial Philosophy
2 The Ladder of Divine Ascent
2 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
2 Some Answers From The Mother
2 Questions And Answers 1956
2 Questions And Answers 1955
2 On Thoughts And Aphorisms
2 Letters On Yoga II
2 Knowledge of the Higher Worlds
2 Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 06
2 Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 03
2 Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 02
0.02 - Letters to a Sadhak, #Some Answers From The Mother, #The Mother, #Integral Yoga
Sweet Mother,
I don’t know why I have lost my self-control and
peace.
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meditation (discussions, accounts, etc.) really indispensable? To
keep one’s self-control, one needs to have time enough to rest,
enter into oneself and find calm and quiet.
0.09 - Letters to a Young Teacher, #Some Answers From The Mother, #The Mother, #Integral Yoga
eternal. The psychic being is progressive and immortal.
All the methods of self-knowledge, self-control and selfmastery are good. You have to choose the one that comes to you
spontaneously and best corresponds to your nature. And once
01.04 - The Poetry in the Making, #Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 02, #Nolini Kanta Gupta, #Integral Yoga
The three or four major orders I speak of in reference to conscious artistry are exampled characteristically in the history of the evolution of Greek poetry. It must be remembered, however, at the very outset that the Greeks as a race were nothing if not rational and intellectual. It was an element of strong self-consciousness that they brought into human culture that was their special gift. Leaving out of account Homer who was, as I said, a primitive, their classical age began with Aeschylus who was the first and the most spontaneous and intuitive of the Great Three. Sophocles, who comes next, is more balanced and self-controlled and pregnant with a reasoned thought-content clothed in polished phrasing. We feel here that the artist knew what he was about and was exercising a conscious control over his instruments and materials, unlike his predecessor who seemed to be completely carried away by the onrush of the poetic enthousiasmos. Sophocles, in spite of his artistic perfection or perhaps because of it, appears to be just a little, one remove, away from the purity of the central inspiration there is a veil, although a thin transparent veil, yet a veil between which intervenes. With the third of the Brotherhood, Euripides, we slide lower downwe arrive at a predominantly mental transcription of an experience or inner conception; but something of the major breath continues, an aura, a rhythm that maintains the inner contact and thus saves the poetry. In a subsequent age, in Theocritus, for example, poetry became truly very much 'sicklied o'er with the pale cast of thought', so much of virtuosity and precocity entered into it; in other words, the poet then was an excessively self-conscious artist. That seems to be the general trend of all literature.
03.02 - Yogic Initiation and Aptitude, #Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 03, #Nolini Kanta Gupta, #Integral Yoga
Needless to say that these tests and ordeals are mere externals; at any rate, they have no place in our sadhana. Such or similar virtues many people possess or may possess, but that is no indication that they have an opening to the true spiritual life, to the life divine that we seek. Just as accomplishments on the mental plane,keen intellect, wide studies, profound scholarship even in the scriptures do not entitle a man to the possession of the spirit, even so capacities on the vital plane,mere self-control, patience and forbearance or endurance and perseverance do not create a claim to spiritual realisation, let alone physical austerities. In conformity with the Upanishadic standard, one may not be an unworthy son or an unworthy disciple, one may be strong, courageous, patient, calm, self-possessed, one may even be a consummate master of the senses and be endowed with other great virtues. Yet all this is no assurance of one's success in spiritual sadhana. Even one may be, after Shankara, a mumuksu, that is to say, have an ardent yearning for liberation. Still it is doubtful if that alone can give him liberation into the divine life.
03.03 - Arjuna or the Ideal Disciple, #Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 03, #Nolini Kanta Gupta, #Integral Yoga
A certain modern critic, however, demurs. He asks why Arjuna was chosen in preference to Yudhisthira and doubts the wisdom and justice of the choice (made by Sri Krishna or the author of the Gita). Is not the eldest of the Pandavas also the best? He possesses in every way a superior dhra. He has knowledge and wisdom; he is free from passions, calm and self-controlled; he always acts according to the dictates of what is right and true. He is not swayed by the impulses of the moment or by considerations relating to his personal self; serene and unruffled he seeks to fashion his conduct by the highest possible standard available to him. That is why he is called dharmarja. If such a one is not to be considered as an ideal disciple, who else can be?
03.07 - Brahmacharya, #Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 02, #Nolini Kanta Gupta, #Integral Yoga
Modern education means storage of information, knowledge of thingsas much knowledge of as many things as it is possible for the brain to contain. The older ideal, however, was not so much knowledge, that is to say, packet of knowings, but capacity, first capacity in a general way, and then as its application, the capacity of knowledge. The problem was to locate, that is to say, find out the source of energy then master it, increase it, harness it and utilise it. The physico-vital energy is the most elementary and elemental energy that is nearest to us and most easily available. It is the basic energy; man starts his life with that, a child possesses it abundantly. The first problem is how to store it; evidently it is most liable to be thrown or frittered away. The first form of the discipline in the preparatory stage of early life is regularity in habits, methodical physical exercises; even a fixed routine sometimes helps much. Next comes self-control, continence, physical purity. This is Brahmacharya proper. It means the exercise of conscious will.
08.02 - Order and Discipline, #Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 04, #Nolini Kanta Gupta, #Integral Yoga
There are children who are very disorderly. They do not know how to keep things tidy. They do not know even how to keep things. They lose or spoil them. There are several reasons for it. First of all, very often it means that the child lacks sufficient vitality. The vital is not strong enough to take care of external objects. Another reason may be that he does not find interest in the physical life; his interest may lie in the direction of mental occupation, imagination or dreaming etc. Or again it may be a lack of self-control and discipline.
08.05 - Will and Desire, #Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 04, #Nolini Kanta Gupta, #Integral Yoga
They are not the same thing. When, for example, you see that a thing is to be done and that it is good to do it, then normally your reason decides and judges; then it is your will that sets to work and makes you do what is necessary for the work to be done. Thus, will is the power of execution which should be at the disposal of what has been decided by you or a higher force. It is a thing co-ordinated and organised: it acts according to plan and is in full self-control. Wish or desire, on the other hand, is an impulse. There are people who are full of desires, but have no will; they are eaten up by their desires, as it is said. You go nowhere if you have not even the will to fulfil your desires. The little bit of will most people have is indeed put at the service of their desires. Will is a force capable of deliberation and organisation and can be used for any purpose in view.
08.24 - On Food, #Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 04, #Nolini Kanta Gupta, #Integral Yoga
It is not like your stomach which can digest only a limited quantity of food and this food again can give out only a portiona very small portionof its energy. For after the energy spent in swallowing, masticating, digesting, etc. how much of it still remains available? If, on the other hand, you learnyou learn instinctively, it is a kind of instinctto draw from the universal energy which is freely available in the world and in any quantity, you can take it in and absorb as much as you are capable of doing. Thus, as I have said, when there is not the support from below coming from food, the body makes an automatic movement to get the needed energy from the environment. It gets at times, more than enough, even an overdose and that puts you in a state of tension or stimulation. And if your body is strong and can remain without food for some time, then you can maintain your poise and utilise the energies in all waysto make inner progress, for example, to become more conscious, to change your nature. But if your body does not have much reserve, it gets easily weakened by fast, then there occurs a disharmony between the intensity of the energies you absorb and the capacity of the body to hold them and that upsets you. You lose your poise, the equilibrium of the forces is broken and anything can happen. In any case, if such a thing happens, you lose a good deal of self-control, you get excited and this unnatural excitement you consider as a higher state of consciousness. But it is an inner unbalance, nothing more. Otherwise, in that state your senses get refined and receptive. Thus when you fast and do not draw energy from below, if you smell a flower, you feel nourished, the perfume you brea the in serves as food, it gives you energy and this you would not have known but for the fasting.
10.08 - Consciousness as Freedom, #Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 04, #Nolini Kanta Gupta, #Integral Yoga
Indeed each part, even each constituent element of our being has an individuality of its own, a personal being and consciousness. And it is because it is not aware of that inner reality, because it has fallen unconscious, therefore it has entered into this life of bondage and slavery and mechanical existence. When life becomes conscious, the life-energy becomes luminous, the vital being gradually gains self-control and self-direction. Instead of being moved about by irresponsible and irrepressible desires and impulses it attains a clarity as to what it should desire and what it should effectuate; and along with that light secures the strength also to act up to the directions of that light.
1.00 - Gospel, #The Gospel of Sri Ramakrishna, #Sri Ramakrishna, #Hinduism
Gaddhar had never seen anything like this at Kmrpukur among the simple and pious villagers. The sdhus and wandering monks whom he had served in his boyhood had revealed to him an altogether different India. He had been impressed by their devotion and purity, their self-control and renunciation. He had learnt from them and from his own intuition that the ideal of life as taught by the ancient sages of India was the realization of God.
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By his marriage Sri Ramakrishna admitted the great value of marriage in man's spiritual evolution, and by adhering to his monastic vows he demonstrated the imperative necessity of self-control, purity, and continence, in the realization of God. By his unique spiritual relationship with his wife he proved that husb and and wife can live together as spiritual companions. Thus his life is a synthesis of the ways of life of the householder and the monk.
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But to the young men destined to be monks he pointed out the steep path of renunciation, both external and internal. They must take the vow of absolute continence and eschew all thought of greed and lust. By the practice of continence, aspirants develop a subtle nerve through which they understand the deeper mysteries of God. For them self-control is final, imperative, and absolute. The sannysis are teachers of men, and their lives should be totally free from blemish. They must not even look at a picture which may awaken their animal passions. The Master selected his future monks from young men untouched by "woman and gold" and plastic enough to be cast in his spiritual mould. When teaching them the path of renunciation and discrimination, he would not allow the householders to be any where near them.
1.00 - Preliminary Remarks, #Liber ABA, #Aleister Crowley, #Occultism
This mental activity is so great, and seems so natural, that it is hard to understand how any one first got the idea that it was a weakness and a nuisance. Perhaps it was because in the more natural practice of devotion, people found that their thoughts interfered. In any case calm and self-control are to be prefered to restlessness. Darwin in his study presents a marked contrast with a monkey in a cage.
1.010 - Self-Control - The Alpha and Omega of Yoga, #The Study and Practice of Yoga, #Swami Krishnananda, #Yoga
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Chapter 10: self-control The Alpha and Omega of Yoga
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What we call self-control, sense-control, mind-control, etc., is nothing but the attempt of consciousness to go back to its cause. When an effect puts forth effort to return to its cause, that would be self-control on its part. It becomes self-control because in order to understand the cause of an effect, the effect has to withdraw its ramifications of action, thought, feeling, and relationship. We may wonder why such a kind of withdrawal is called for on the part of the effect for the sake of the knowledge of its cause. If I feel hot, and the cause of this heat is the sun that is shining in the sky, and I have to know the cause of this heat as the sun, I need not withdraw myself to know the cause of this heat. I can simply look up and see the sun blazing in the sky and say, "Here is the cause of heat." Where then arises the need for self-control on the part of the effect when it has to know the nature of the cause of its very existence and action? The reason is something very peculiar. The cause of this effect we are speaking of is different in every way from external causes, such as the sun causing heat, etc. A wind may blow and cause chilliness, and a wrong diet may cause a tummy upset, etc. these become causes of certain effects in the form of experiences. In the matter of all these causes, knowledge of the causes does not necessarily involve self-control, because all these causes are outside the effect and they exert an external pressure on the effect.
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The whole of yoga is self-control in one word, 'self-mastery' in the sense that the rays of the mind and the senses, the projecting powers of individuality, have to be brought back to their source in order that there may be consciousness of the cause. There cannot be a consciousness of the cause as long as the cause is not the object of consciousness, inasmuch as the latter is involved in the externalised activity of the mind and the senses. We cannot know an object unless the consciousness follows this cognitive act and enlivens the senses, activates them towards the object which is seen, cognised or perceived by them. On account of this engagement of consciousness through the mind and the senses in respect of objects outside and in all acts of perception and cognition, it finds no time to revert to its cause. We have no time. The consciousness cannot find time to become aware of its own background, inasmuch as it is heavily engaged and is very busy throughout the day and the night in attending to the needs of the mind and the senses in their activity of projection externally to objects. So, to become aware of the cause would be to enable the consciousness to revert itself in that direction inwardly for which purpose it has to be withdrawn, tentatively at least, in an appreciable measure, from its engagement in objective perception through the mind and the senses.
All perceptions are, therefore, engagements of consciousness, which prevents it from knowing its own background and conditions of action, so that when we are busily engaged in the perceptions and cognitions through the mind and the senses, we cannot know our own background, and we look helpless. The necessity for self-control arises merely because of the fact that the object of our quest is inherently present in the very act of our individual experience, and it cannot be observed by the ordinary means of an academic character or a scientific nature. Here we need no instruments, no types of apparatus either for observation or knowledge, because the object here is the background of our own self. There are causes behind causes, extending one behind the other, and lying one behind the other in larger and larger expansiveness one implying the other, and one inclusive of the other. The causes that are precedent are inclusive of the causes that are succeeding, so that when we go higher up we do not lose anything that is lower, but get everything that is lower in a refined form by transcendence.
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The act of self-control is the return of consciousness to a higher selfhood from a lower one. It is a rise from self to self, we may call it from the self that is involved in externality and objectivity, to a self that is less involved in this manner a return from objectivity to subjectivity through higher and higher degrees of ascent. But this process becomes extremely difficult on account of our weddedness to the senses. We have been habituated to look at things only through the senses, and we have no other way of knowing or judging. We immediately pass a judgement on anything that is seen with the eyes it is there in such-and-such a condition, it has such-and-such a value, it is real in this percentage. Our judgement of value and reality depends, therefore, unfortunately for us, on our sense-perceptions, so that external relationships are mistaken by us as realities. A reality is not a relationship; it is an existence by itself. So, self-control is a return of consciousness from its life of relationships, to a higher form of life where relationships become less and less palpable.
The whole difficulty is in self-control, and this is the alpha and omega of yoga everything is here. It is practically impossible for ordinary people, because consciousness is involved there. If anything else had been involved, we would have done something. We ourselves are involved that is the meaning of consciousness getting involved and if we are involved in mistaken activity, how are we to rectify this activity? We are involved in this wrong action, and who is to rectify this wrong action? Not someone else that someone else cannot do anything in a matter where we are involved. This is the difficulty of self-control. It is not control by somebody; it is control by the self. It is control of oneself by oneself, and nothing can be more difficult in this world than this effort. But once we taste the joy of self-control, we will not like to taste even milk and honey in this world.
self-control is not a pain; it is not a suffering, as people may imagine. The moment we talk of self-control, people get frightened. They think it is a kind of tapasya that is being imposed upon us contrary to the joys that we are expecting in life. Not so is the truth. The joy of self-control is greater than the joy of sense contact - very important to remember. The joy of sense-control is greater than the joy of sense contact with objects. One may ask why. The reason is that in sense contact an artificial condition is created, whereas in sense-control a real condition which is commensurate with our true nature is generated. In sense contact a condition is generated which is not commensurate with our true nature. We become sick in sense contact, and a kind of illness takes possession of us. And the distorted joy (distorted is the word to be underlined), the perverted joy reflected, limited, and distorted joy which we are supposed to acquire by every kind of sense contact, is far, far removed from the true joy of which it is the reflection, distortion, etc a state of affairs which can be known only by direct practice. There is a vast difference, as between health and disease. How unhappy one is when one is sick, and how happy one feels when one is healthy. But if we are perpetually sick and we do not know the joy of health, it is difficult to make it clear to us. What health is cannot be explained, because we have not seen what health is.
Sense-control, or self-control, is causative of a greater happiness than anything conceivable in this world, because it is a return of consciousness to its own self that is motivated by this effort. The more we return to ourselves, the more are we happy. The more we are away from ourselves, the less we are happy and the more we are miserable. So, in all externalised perceptions and contacts, likes and dislikes, etc., we are in a diseased state of mind and consciousness. We are not what we are. We are other than what we are: asvastha-not in our own self. We are outside ourselves when we perceive anything. Svastha is one who is healthy-one who is situated, located and rooted in one's own self. One who is established in one's own self is svastha, and that condition is called svastha-health. When we are outside ourselves, we are asvatha.
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If we miss the practice even one day, we will miss the link of action, because it is easy to follow the course of the senses and difficult to control them and act in a reverse order. The senses have a peculiar habit if we do not allow them to act according to their whims and fancies even on a single day, the next day they become more powerful and vehement, like a servant who has not been paid his salary and will not do his work. He will murmur, grumble, and he will say all kinds of things because we have not paid his dues. He will say, "I'll go. I will do this or that." Likewise are the senses. They are like servants who have not been paid their dues because of our act of self-control, so they murmur, grumble, and threaten us and tell us, "One day we will do something to you"- and they may even do that if we are careless. They may finish us and see that we are done for ultimately, if as masters we are careless with the servants. So, even for one day we cannot miss the practice.
It is dangerous to miss practice even for one day. Why is it so? It is dangerous because the senses will revolt, and once they revolt we cannot control them. They will gain the upper hand and we will be finished, and all the good that we have done for months and years will be in dust. We are warned that carelessness is equal to death. It is better to die than be careless in this practice. It is like touching dynamite. One has to be cautious. So why is self-control necessary? It is necessary because that is the return of the mind and consciousness to its own healthy condition of higher expansiveness. It is also necessary that we should not miss the practice. If we miss it for a period in the middle, the controlled senses gain the opportunity to revolt and exert a pressure with such vehemence that our whole personality will be driven by a blast of wind in a direction which is contrary to what is expected.
So while self-control is extremely difficult, to miss the practice of self-control is extremely dangerous. Hence, the guidance of a Guru is called for, and earnestness of practice is also requisite. Conducive atmosphere, suitable company, activity commensurate with the nature of the goal, and the presence of a competent master or a Guru all these are indispensable requisites in the practice of yoga.
1.012 - Sublimation - A Way to Reshuffle Thought, #The Study and Practice of Yoga, #Swami Krishnananda, #Yoga
We have been discussing a very important principle in the practice of yoga namely, self-restraint. I would like to touch upon another aspect of it which is an essential in the practice. Self-restraint or self-control is not a pressure of will exerted upon oneself, but a spontaneous growth inwardly experienced on account of transcendence and not by way of rejection. The term 'vairagya' also has some relevance to the meaning of the term ' self-control'. Vairagya is renunciation, self-abandonment, relinquishment, etc. which is mostly interpreted as an abandonment of certain things in the world.
But vairagya is not an abandonment of things in the world. It is an abandonment of false values, the wrong interpretation of things, and a misconstruing of one's relationship with everything around oneself. It is this erroneous notion about things around oneself that is the reason for attachments, aversions, likes, dislikes, and what not. So also is the principle of self-control. A rejection of an existent value is impossible. This is very important to remember. Anything that is real cannot be rejected. If we think that the world is real, we cannot abandon it - the question of abandoning it does not arise. Anything which has already been declared to be real cannot be abandoned. How can we abandon real things? So, also, if self-control or self-restraint implies a withdrawal of consciousness from those things or values which are real and external to oneself, then it is impossible, because the consciousness or the mind which is expected to withdraw itself from externals will insist that abandonment of real values is impracticable and unadvisable.
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So, in the process of practice of yoga, whose essential ingredient is self-control or self-restraint, what is expected is a gradual blossoming of the flower of consciousness into a deeper insight into the nature of things, tending towards a wider experience, rather than a forceful suppression of really perceived values or a crushing of desires for things which are expected to bring about real satisfaction to the individual personality. This is a very important aspect which many seekers may miss due to their enthusiasm.
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In the practice of yoga, in the understanding of vairagya, in self-control which is yoga, one should not be too enthusiastic. Over-enthusiasm is bad because it is mostly emotional, coupled with a kind of will-force but bereft of understanding, which creates a conflict psychologically and, consequently, even socially. It is better that a student takes note of all his desires. "Have I a desire?" It is no use saying, "I have no desire." If we have really no desires it is okay very good, and so much the better but we should be sure that we have no desires.
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The third way to handle desire, which is the only effective course, is sublimation. Sublimation is the only technique to be adopted. Sublimation means boiling, melting and transforming the desire into a new substance altogether. The desire is no longer a desire; it has become something else. The shape of the desire has changed, and it has now become something quite different from what it was. This is the most difficult of all the techniques of self-control. The emotions are the motive power behind our thoughts, will and actions. Whatever we do is generally driven from behind by an emotion, like a dynamo, and this emotion is connected with desire. The desire is inseparable from an emotion. An emotion need not necessarily be a kind of upheaval of feeling. That upheaval is felt only when the desire is very intense. Otherwise, it is like a mild ripple on the surface of a lake. When it becomes very intense it is like a strong wave on the ocean, throwing everything hither and thither nevertheless, it is an emotion.
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We now come to a very crucial point. All of this amounts to saying that we cannot easily practise self-control. It is not so cheap an affair; it is a terrible job. It is terrible, no doubt, but there is a way out. The way out is to reshuffle the ways in which we think under given conditions. Emotions rise up under certain conditions, and under certain other conditions they may not be so forceful. The meaning that the emotion reads into its object is to be transformed. Are we correct in reading this meaning in the object? This is a philosophical question that we have to ask ourselves. Is it correct that because we see a meaning in something we can regard it as real? This is a simple question, for which there is a simple answer. But, another question can be raised are we sure that our perception is correct?.
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Here, we feel that the withdrawal of consciousness from its object would be something like tearing off our own skin from our body. How can we tear off our own skin? It would be terrible, but this is what is happening when we practise self-control. We are tearing off our flesh, and it is so painful. But the pain is lessened if the consciousness is properly educated and made to reasonably accept the background of its attitudes and the incorrectness of its perceptions, for reasons which are superior to the one that it is adopting at the present moment.
1.013 - Defence Mechanisms of the Mind, #The Study and Practice of Yoga, #Swami Krishnananda, #Yoga
The term 'indriya nigrah' means sense-control; 'atma nigrah' means self-control. Both these terms are often thought of as having a synonymous meaning and are used as such, but the term 'self' has a larger connotation than 'sense', as we already know. So the term ' self-control' should mean something much more than what is indicated by the term 'sense-control', because the senses are only a few of the functions of the self and not all the functions, while self-control implies a restriction imposed upon every function of the self, meaning thereby the lower self, which has to be regulated by the principle of the higher self. The self that has to be controlled is any self which is lower than the Universal Self. The degrees of self gradually go on increasing in their comprehensiveness as we rise higher and higher, so that it becomes necessary that at every step the immediately succeeding stage, which is more comprehensive, acts as the governing principle of the category of self just below. An analogy would be the syllabi or curricula of education we do not suddenly jump into the topmost level of studies. There is always a governing principle exercised by systems of education, wherein the immediately succeeding stage determines the needs of the immediately preceding condition. The self, as far as we are concerned at the present moment, can be regarded as that principle of individuality which comprehends all that we regard as 'we', or connected with us.
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All of these are inside the body not in the sense of pebbles in a bottle, but inseparably permeating everything that is in the body, or that is the body. We cannot separate the intellect, the mind, the senses, the prana, the body, etc. One is involved in the other, so it looks like a compound that has been created by these elements. For some purposes they look like different functions, but for other purposes they look as if they are a single force, acting in different ways. So, self-control would mean a judicious control exercised over every function inside, including the physical functions, the function of the prana, the senses, the mind and the intellect. All of these have to be harnessed in a given direction.
According to ancient systems of spiritual practice, self-control is effected by three main methods: the control of the prana, the control of the mind, and concentration of consciousness. These are the three standard methods of atma vinigrah or self-control. This is a triple method prescribed in the Yoga Vasishtha, for instance. It does not mean that each method is mutually exclusive of the other; they are connected with one another. Also, it is not possible here to say which should precede and which should succeed. Are we to control the prana first and the mind afterwards, or the mind first and the prana afterwards, or are we to practise concentration first? We cannot do all of these things in a linear fashion. They all have to be worked at simultaneously in some acceptable degree.
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In a medical examination, the diagnosis is the more important part of treatment. Proper diagnosis precedes any prescription of medicine. So, the order for self-control, atma nigrah, may be regarded as a prescription for the illness of the individual, but this prescription can be given only after a thorough diagnosis of the individual's case. Although every individual may be said to be sick in some way or the other, everyone does not suffer from the same kind of sickness uniformly.
So even in self-control there are varieties. It is not the same type of technique that we adopt uniformly and universally, as previously mentioned. Though it is true that everyone is hungry and everyone needs food, universally and uniformly, it does not follow that we all have to be given the same food. The whole world cannot be served the same kind of diet merely because everyone is equally hungry. In the same way, even though self-control is a universal necessity for the purpose of higher spiritual regeneration, the methods of practice may vary in detail according to the conditions of the individual in the stages of evolution, the circumstances in which one lives, and various other such relevant factors. The dependence of the mind on externals is also, therefore, variegated. It is not a uniform type of dependence. Therefore, each one has to investigate into the peculiar type of dependence due to which one is suffering. This requires leisurely thinking. A hurried mind cannot think so deeply on this subject, because it is not easy to detect where we are weak, and upon what things we are hanging for our dependence, for our existence.
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These mechanisms of the mind are to be studied very well before we try to adopt the method of self-control. Otherwise, we will be pursuing what they call a wild goose chase and we will get nothing out of our efforts. The mind is a terrible trickster, and it cannot be easily tackled by open methods. Frontal attacks will not always succeed, because these mechanisms of the mind are invisible weapons; they are not visible to the eye. The reactions that the mind sets up in respect of persons outside and things around are indications of the presence of these defence mechanisms. Even when these reactions are set up by the mind in respect of externals, the mechanisms are not made visible we see only reactions, and not the source or the cause of the reactions. They will all be kept hidden so that the nature of a person cannot be known, and even when the person sets up a reaction, that nature is kept secret always. That is another device of the mind. Through all of our outward behaviour and conduct, we cannot be studied properly by a mere look at our faces, because we are very secret inside, looking like something else outside. This deep-rooted secrecy of the mental structure has to be dug out and brought to the surface of consciousness before any successful effort can be made in the direction of self-control.
1.01 - MAPS OF EXPERIENCE - OBJECT AND MEANING, #Maps of Meaning, #Jordan Peterson, #Psychology
Could we do better? Is it possible to understand what might reasonably, even admirably, be believed,
after understanding that we must believe? Our vast power makes self-control (and, perhaps, selfcomprehension) a necessity so we have the motivation, at least in principle. Furthermore, the time is
auspicious. The third Christian millenium is dawning at the end of an era when we have demonstrated, to
1.02 - Education, #On Education, #The Mother, #Integral Yoga
There are other parents who know that their children must be educated and who try to do what they can. But very few, even among those who are most serious and sincere, know that the first thing to do, in order to be able to educate a child, is to educate oneself, to become conscious and master of oneself so that one never sets a bad example to ones child. For it is above all through example that education becomes effective. To speak good words and to give wise advice to a child has very little effect if one does not oneself give him an example of what one teaches. Sincerity, honesty, straightforwardness, courage, disinterestedness, unselfishness, patience, endurance, perseverance, peace, calm, self-control are all things that are taught infinitely better by example than by beautiful speeches. Parents, have a high ideal and always act in accordance with it and you will see that little by little your child will reflect this ideal in himself and spontaneously manifest the qualities you would like to see expressed in his nature. Quite naturally a child has respect and admiration for his parents; unless they are quite unworthy, they will always appear to their child as demigods whom he will try to imitate as best he can.
With very few exceptions, parents are not aware of the disastrous influence that their own defects, impulses, weaknesses and lack of self-control have on their children. If you wish to be respected by a child, have respect for yourself and be worthy of respect at every moment. Never be authoritarian, despotic, impatient or ill-tempered. When your child asks you a question, do not give him a stupid or silly answer under the pretext that he cannot understand you. You can always make yourself understood if you take enough trouble; and in spite of the popular saying that it is not always good to tell the truth, I affirm that it is always good to tell the truth, but that the art consists in telling it in such a way as to make it accessible to the mind of the hearer. In early life, until he is twelve or fourteen, the childs mind is hardly open to abstract notions and general ideas. And yet you can train it to understand these things by using concrete images, symbols or parables. Up to quite an advanced age and for some who mentally always remain children, a narrative, a story, a tale well told teach much more than any number of theoretical explanations.
1.02 - MAPS OF MEANING - THREE LEVELS OF ANALYSIS, #Maps of Meaning, #Jordan Peterson, #Psychology
In real life, she had been a victim of Alzheimers disease, and had regressed, before her death, to a
semi-conscious state. In the dream, as well, she had lost her capacity for self-control. Her genital region
was exposed, dimly; it had the appearance of a thick mat of hair. She was stroking herself, absentmindedly. She walked over to me, with a handful of pubic hair, compacted into something resembling a
1.02 - The Stages of Initiation, #Knowledge of the Higher Worlds, #Rudolf Steiner, #Occultism
It is not surprising that all this appears to many as illusion. "What is the use of such visions," they ask, "and such hallucinations?" And many will thus fall away and abandon the path. But this is precisely the important point: not to confuse spiritual reality with imagination at this difficult stage of human evolution, and furthermore, to have the courage to press onward and not become timorous and faint-hearted. On the other hand, however, the necessity must be emphasized of maintaining unimpaired and of perpetually cultivating that healthy sound sense which distinguishes truth from illusion. Fully conscious self-control must never be lost during all these exercises, and they must be accompanied by the same sane, sound thinking which is applied to the details of every-day life. To lapse into reveries would be fatal. The intellectual clarity, not to say the sobriety of thought, must never for a moment be dulled. The greatest mistake would be made if the student's mental balance
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be guided only by the results of his higher perception and reading of the occult script, in order to produce the changes in question in these higher regions of existence. Should he, in the course of his activity, introduce any of his own opinions and desires, or should he diverge for one moment from the laws which he has recognized to be right, in order to follow his own willful inclination, then the result produced would differ entirely from what was intended. He would lose sight of the goal to which his action tended, and confusion would result. Hence ample opportunity is given him in the course of this trial to develop self-control. This is the object in view. Here again, this trial can be more easily passed by those whose life, before initiation, has led them to acquire self-control. Anyone having acquired the faculty of following high principles and ideals, while putting into the background all personal predilection; anyone capable of always performing his duty, even though inclinations and sympathies would like to seduce him from this duty-such a person is unconsciously an initiate in the midst of ordinary life. He will need but little to succeed in this particular trial. Indeed, a certain
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measure of initiation thus unconsciously acquired in life will, as a rule, be indispensable for success in this second trial. For even as it is difficult for those who have not learned to spell correctly in their childhood to make good this deficiency when fully grown up, so too it is difficult to develop the necessary degree of self-control at the moment of looking into the higher worlds, if this ability has not been acquired to a certain degree in ordinary life. The objects of the physical world do not alter, whatever the nature of our wishes, desires, and inclinations. In the higher worlds, however, our wishes, desires, and inclinations are causes that produce effects. If we wish to produce a particular effect in these worlds, we must strictly follow the right rules and subdue every arbitrary impulse.
10.33 - On Discipline, #Collected Works of Nolini Kanta Gupta - Vol 04, #Nolini Kanta Gupta, #Integral Yoga
But obedience to a person is in the last analysis a symbolsymbol of obedience to a principle. The person signifies and embodies a principle, a law to which we render our obedience. In normal life it is these principles or laws that demand our obedience. These laws or rules are meant for the welfare of collective living and therefore individuals are expected to restrain or forego their personal impulses, their so-called liberties in order to live together in harmony. Discipline is meant exactly to control one's personal idiosyncrasies, place them under the yoke of the common collective law. All laws or rules that make for a harmonious collective living, that is, social or national welfare, are limbs of discipline. By submitting himself to such a process of self-abnegation the individual gains in self-control and self-mastery. But there are rules and rules, laws and laws. For that depends on the ideal or the purpose set before oneself. If the purpose is narrow, limited, superficial, the rules are necessarily likewise, and although effective in a particular field, they have a restricting, even deadening effect on the consciousness of the individual. If discipline means obedience, the obedience must be to a larger and higher law, and the perfect discipline will come only from obedience to the highest law.
1.03 - The Human Disciple, #Essays On The Gita, #Sri Aurobindo, #Integral Yoga
Arjuna is, in the language of the Gita, a man subject to the action of the three gunas or modes of the Nature-Force and habituated to move unquestioningly in that field, like the generality of men. He justifies his name only in being so far pure and sattwic as to be governed by high and clear principles and impulses and habitually control his lower nature by the noblest
Law which he knows. He is not of a violent Asuric disposition, not the slave of his passions, but has been trained to a high calm and self-control, to an unswerving performance of his duties
1.04 - Money, #The Mother With Letters On The Mother, #Sri Aurobindo, #Integral Yoga
1:Money is the visible sign of a universal force, and this force in its manifestation on earth works on the vital and physical planes and is indispensable to the fullness of the outer life. In its origin and its true action it belongs to the Divine. But like other powers of the Divine it is delegated here and in the ignorance of the lower Nature can be usurped for the uses of the ego or held by Asuric influences and perverted to their purpose. This is indeed one of the three forces - power, wealth, sex - that have the strongest attraction for the human ego and the Asura and are most generally misheld and misused by those who retain them. The seekers or keepers of wealth are more often possessed rather than its possessors; few escape entirely a certain distorting influence stamped on it by its long seizure and perversion by the Asura. For this reason most spiritual disciplines insist on a complete self-control, detachment and renunciation of all bondage to wealth and of all personal and egoistic desire for its possession. Some even put a ban on money and riches and proclaim poverty and bareness of life as the only spiritual condition. But this is an error; it leaves the power in the hands of the hostile forces. To reconquer it for the Divine to whom it belongs and use it divinely for the divine life is the supramental way for the Sadhaka.
1.04 - The Self, #Aion, #Carl Jung, #Psychology
order to cover up the feeling of having suffered a moral defeat.
He prides himself on what he believes to be his self-control and
the omnipotence of his will, and despises the man who lets him-
1.052 - Yoga Practice - A Series of Positive Steps, #The Study and Practice of Yoga, #Swami Krishnananda, #Yoga
This is the psychological background of the practice of self-control. self-control does not mean mortification of the flesh or harassment of the body. It is the limitation of ones engagements in life to those values and conditions which are necessary for the fulfilment of the chosen ideal and the exclusion of any other factor which is redundant. It is a very difficult thing for the mind to understand, because sometimes we mix up needs with luxuries, and vice versa, and what is merely a means to the pampering of the senses, the body and the mind may look like a necessity or a need. Also, there is a possibility of overstepping the limits of self-restraint which, when indulged in, may completely upset the very intention behind the practice. Diseases may crop up, distractions may get more intensified, and the practice of concentration may become impossible.
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It is mentioned in the Yoga Shastras that the essence of yoga is self-restraint, no doubt, but this is precisely the difficulty in understanding what yoga is, because we cannot know what self-restraint is unless we know what the self is which we are going to restrain. Which is the self that we are going to restrain? Whose self? Our self? On the one side, we say the goal of life is Self-realisation the realisation, the experience, the attunement of ones self with the Self. On the other side, we say we must restrain it, control it, subjugate it, overcome it, etc. There are degrees of self, and the significance behind the mandate on self-control is with reference to the degrees that are perceivable or experienceable in selfhood. The whole universe is nothing but Self there is nothing else in it. Even the so-called objects are a part of the Self in some form or the other. They may be a false self or a real self that is a different matter, but they are a self nevertheless.
1.053 - A Very Important Sadhana, #The Study and Practice of Yoga, #Swami Krishnananda, #Yoga
The point is that if you cannot do anything else, at least do this much. Take to regular study so that your day is filled with divine thoughts, philosophical ideas and moods which are spiritual in some way or the other. You may closet yourself in your study for hours together and browse through these profound texts, whatever be the nature of their presentation, because all these philosophical and spiritual presentations through the scriptures and the writings of other masters have one aim namely, the analysis of the structure of things, and enabling the mind to know the inner reality behind this structure. There is a threefold prong provided by Patanjali in this connection wherein he points out that self-control the control of the senses, austerity, or tapas together with svadhyaya, or study of sacred scriptures, will consummate in the adoration of God as the All-reality.
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Sometimes factors which are extraneous become responsible for the practice that we have undergone or are undergoing; and because the heart is absent there, naturally the feeling of happiness is also not there. When the heart is not there, there cannot be joy. That is why it is suggested that the sadhana of self-control, or control of the senses, should be coupled with a deep philosophical knowledge and spiritual aspiration, which is what is indicated by the term svadhyaya, and the other term Ishvara pranidhana, which is adoration of God as the ultimate goal of life.
1.05 - THE HOSTILE BROTHERS - ARCHETYPES OF RESPONSE TO THE UNKNOWN, #Maps of Meaning, #Jordan Peterson, #Psychology
have personal frailties that remain constrained by our social environments. Our neurotic tendencies are
checked by the people around us, who care for us, who complain and protest when we lose our self-control
and take things, in our weakness, one step too far. If everyone around thinks you are the savior, who is left
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betrays an ethical standard very different from what is expected. Here the moral criterion is consciousness, and not
law or convention. One might also mention the strange fact that it is precisely Peter, who lacks self-control and is
fickle in character, whom Christ wishes to make the rock and foundation of his church. [Jung, C.G. (1969). pp.
1.06 - On Thought, #Words Of Long Ago, #The Mother, #Integral Yoga
When one has enough self-control to be able to analyse coldly, to dissect these states of mind, to strip them of their brilliant or painful appearance, so as to perceive them as they are in all their childish insignificance, then one can profitably devote oneself to studying them. But this result can only be achieved gradually, after much reflection in a spirit of complete impartiality. I would like to make a short digression here to put you on your guard against a frequent confusion.
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Ceasing to delight in joy, he remained indifferent, conscious, self-controlled, and attained the third dhma, experiencing the inmost contentment proclaimed by the sages, saying, One who, self-controlled, dwells in indifference, experiences an inner well-being.
1.06 - Psychic Education, #On Education, #The Mother, #Integral Yoga
It is also important to note that to say good words, to give wise advice to a child has very little effect, if one does not show by one's living example the truth of what one teaches.
The best qualities to develop in children are sincerity, honesty, straightforwardness, courage, disinterestedness, unselfishness, patience, endurance, perseverance, peace, calm and self-control, and they are taught infinitely better by example than by speeches, however, beautiful.
The role of the teacher is to put the child upon the right road to his own perfection and encourage him to follow it watching, suggesting, helping, but not imposing or interfering. The best method of suggestion is by personal example, daily conversation, and books read from day-to-day.
1.075 - Self-Control, Study and Devotion to God, #The Study and Practice of Yoga, #Swami Krishnananda, #Yoga
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author class:Swami Krishnananda
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Chapter 75: self-control, Study and Devotion to God
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Every act of self-control even if it be only a modicum, only a jot of practice generates new strength in the system, just as even a drop of honey will taste sweet though it is only a drop. It is not much; it is not even half a spoon. Notwithstanding the limitation in the quantity of the practice, the effect of it will be felt. Even the least step that is taken in right directions will produce those advantages mentioned here, and one will feel their presence in the intensity equivalent to the intensity of the self-control.
1.07 - The Continuity of Consciousness, #Knowledge of the Higher Worlds, #Rudolf Steiner, #Occultism
Now, the student must realize at this stage of development that he is dealing with separate and more or less isolated spiritual experiences. He should therefore beware of constructing out of them a complete whole or even a connected system of knowledge. In this case, all manner of fantastic ideas and conceptions would be mixed into the soul-world, and a world might thus easily be constructed which had nothing to do with the real spiritual world. The student must continually practice self-control. The right thing to do is to strive for an ever clearer conception of the isolated real experiences, and to await the spontaneous arrival of new experiences which will connect themselves, as though of their own accord, with those already recorded. By virtue of the power of the spiritual world into which he has now found his way, and through continued application to his prescribed exercises, the student experiences an
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--- Overview of noun self-control
The noun self-control has 2 senses (first 1 from tagged texts)
1. (1) self-denial, self-discipline, self-control ::: (the act of denying yourself; controlling your impulses)
2. self-control, self-possession, possession, willpower, will power, self-command, self-will ::: (the trait of resolutely controlling your own behavior)
--- Synonyms/Hypernyms (Ordered by Estimated Frequency) of noun self-control
2 senses of self-control
Sense 1
self-denial, self-discipline, self-control
=> control
=> activity
=> act, deed, human action, human activity
=> event
=> psychological feature
=> abstraction, abstract entity
=> entity
Sense 2
self-control, self-possession, possession, willpower, will power, self-command, self-will
=> resoluteness, firmness, firmness of purpose, resolve, resolution
=> trait
=> attribute
=> abstraction, abstract entity
=> entity
--- Hyponyms of noun self-control
2 senses of self-control
Sense 1
self-denial, self-discipline, self-control
=> abstinence
=> asceticism, ascesis
=> mortification
Sense 2
self-control, self-possession, possession, willpower, will power, self-command, self-will
=> nerves
=> presence of mind
--- Synonyms/Hypernyms (Ordered by Estimated Frequency) of noun self-control
2 senses of self-control
Sense 1
self-denial, self-discipline, self-control
=> control
Sense 2
self-control, self-possession, possession, willpower, will power, self-command, self-will
=> resoluteness, firmness, firmness of purpose, resolve, resolution
--- Coordinate Terms (sisters) of noun self-control
2 senses of self-control
Sense 1
self-denial, self-discipline, self-control
-> control
=> repression
=> crowd control
=> damage control
=> federalization, federalisation
=> flight control
=> flood control
=> imperialism
=> regulation, regulating
=> internal control
=> regulation, regularization, regularisation
=> possession, ownership
=> possession
=> power trip
=> riot control, riot control operation
=> grasping, taking hold, seizing, prehension
=> steering, steerage
=> steering, guidance, direction
=> self-denial, self-discipline, self-control
=> traffic control
=> price-fixing
=> restraint
Sense 2
self-control, self-possession, possession, willpower, will power, self-command, self-will
-> resoluteness, firmness, firmness of purpose, resolve, resolution
=> self-control, self-possession, possession, willpower, will power, self-command, self-will
=> steadiness
=> sturdiness
=> stiffness
=> stubbornness, bullheadedness, obstinacy, obstinance, pigheadedness, self-will
=> single-mindedness
=> adamance, obduracy, unyieldingness
=> decisiveness, decision
=> determination, purpose
=> steadfastness
--- Grep of noun self-control
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